Abrubt Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 years and have 2 children. Recently I have noticed more so that when we go out and she gets drunk that more and more she disrespects me more so than ever it was always border line before but lately its just blatent. I have 3 occasions recently that I can explain. The first is we are at the club I go outside to smoke gor a minute she says she will wait meet me in a minute she never shows up though so I go to where I left her and I see her making out with some girl which doesnt bother me so much cause she does like girls but I see the other girls boyffiend just enjoying the show. Anh the couple gave her there number and she accepted it I feel that I am her man I feel that I should be there to see whats going on I feel that she put a show on for that guy and didnt even care how I felt or even where I was. Number 2 is were at the bar again shes drunk we leave to go to another she gets in they wont let me in cause I am holding her sunglasses for her and it seems like doesnt even care like she would have left me outside and just went in with whoever I literally had to dr ag her out so I didnt loose sight of her. Number 3 were at a concert and its over she wants pics with them at the end she really doesnt even listen to there music at all and the songs she dors listen too she only listens to them when I do. So shes drunk again and she hops on stage and I take a pic no big deal as she leaves she kisses him on the cheek there not famous at all and like I said she aint a fan so why kiss him like you are I think to myself I get a little upset I dont want to make a scene for everybody to see but I ask her why and shr blows it up and tells me im jelous and stupid but very loudly for everyone to see and hear and she just wont drop it thats what gets me mad. It makes me wonder what if I wasnt there how far would she go what if it was someone she loved who was famous how far would it go she seems to love the attention she is absolutely beautiful and I think she knows she can one up everybody else so she always does. Im really not jelous I just dont want to be or not be able to trust her so I think my question is can I trust her when she is drunk and let her have fun or end the relationship because I dont know if I can trust her? Would she cheat on me if im not there to stop her? Should I have to stop her cause I dont think I should have to thats not a relationship if I have to stop her. Right? Or should I end it now before she does cheat if she does or am I just worrying about nothing? A females perspective would help me alot I just want to know if she will be faithful to me 10, 20 years down the line
azsinglegal Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I think she wants out IMO. The question is, how long are you going to put up with being disrespected until it ends?
Author Abrubt Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Thats just she tells me she dont and gets mad at me and accuses me of wanting out I just dont want to live a relationship of lies and exactly how long will I let her keep disrespecfing me
Lauriebell82 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Does she drink everyday? Or get drunk on a regular basis? Does her inappropriate behavior correlate with drunken episodes ONLY? I suspect she has a drinking problem, and yes I do believe she would cheat on you if you weren't around. It's possible she already has. Only you can decide if you want to be with her, but she doesn't sound like she is very committed to the relationship right now. I would get out if I were you.
Author Abrubt Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 And its only when she drinks she said she would not drink but I don't want to control her not at all I want her to be free and happy not dictated and sad.
Author Abrubt Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 She doesn't drink very much at all but when she does she goes overboard and yes only a problem when she drinks.
Lauriebell82 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 She doesn't drink very much at all but when she does she goes overboard and yes only a problem when she drinks. Do you think she realizes the connection between the drinking and her behavior? Maybe you should point it out to her...
Author Abrubt Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I have pointed it out to her she says sorry and feels bad and says it wont happen again but it always does.
Lauriebell82 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I have pointed it out to her she says sorry and feels bad and says it wont happen again but it always does. Well, then she has a problem. Only she can decide when she is ready to reach out for help. You need to decide whether you can wait around for her to do something about it.
Author Abrubt Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 It sucks because she is very sad that she made me feel that she really is but I dont want to be the person that checks up on her in everything she does I wont be that person what do you think that means when she loves me so much sober but is able to constantly do that to me when she is drunk. Does it mean that deep down she doesn't love meas much as she says its hard because I know she wouldn't cheat on me sober but I think she would drunk.
The Connoisseur Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Once you begin to doubt it you no longer can.
azsinglegal Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 It sucks because she is very sad that she made me feel that she really is but I dont want to be the person that checks up on her in everything she does I wont be that person what do you think that means when she loves me so much sober but is able to constantly do that to me when she is drunk. Does it mean that deep down she doesn't love meas much as she says its hard because I know she wouldn't cheat on me sober but I think she would drunk. You are making excuses for her now. Time to cowboy up. Have some respect for yourself and your children and stop letting her walk all over you. Who wants to be with a doormat anyway?
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