Its all the same Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Okay, so people, I desperately need help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over four months. He used to live about five minutes or so from me and I'd see him all the time. We would talk a lot and everything was great. Well he recently moved like thirty minutes away and got a job at wa wa working the night shift, therefor I don't see him much because he's either sleeping or working. Well things feel frayed. He barely texts me. Im usually the one that says i love you first. And he just doesn't seem like he cares. But when i do see him he's sweet and everything seems fine. Today I found out his dog that he Was in love with died, and I'm pretty sure he's gonna go into a depression and not talk to me because it happened before. Should I be worried?should I break up with him? I don't know what to think anymore.
in_absentia Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Give him some time and then speak to him about how he feels. If he's always working or sleeping (is he studying too?) then chances are he feels stressed out and doesn't have much time for anything else right now. I know I wouldn't be able to maintain dating somebody I didn't live with while I'm busy working etc. It would be heartless to just dump him right now with his dog having died, be there for him and offer him your support. And then in a few weeks maybe broach the subject and ask how he feels about the relationship right now.
Author Its all the same Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Alrighty. So should I not text him for a few days?
in_absentia Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 You should only do what you feel is right. But in your position I'd definitely text or phone or go see him, express how sad you are about his dog and make sure he knows you're there for him to talk to etc. And be supportive, maybe send a text every couple of days and see how he responds. But yeah, in a bit of time when he's over the worst of his immediate grief about his dog I think backing off and seeing how he responds will tell you a lot about how he feels about you and the relationship. Or... talk to him.
Author Its all the same Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 True. God I hate love lol. It sucks. I miss him. The old him. Before he got a job and his own place.
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