FakePlasticTree Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me over 3 months ago and I am just flat out going crazy. I was pretty depressed for the first couple months, and now I am filled with anxiety. I don't know how to stop myself from acting crazy - especially when I'm around her, which is fairly unavoidable since we have the same circle of friends are in the same church group. We still talk frequently and sometimes it is great, but sometimes I kind of go off acting very insecure, sensitive, and needy. Sometimes things come up in our discussions and it triggers an attack of anxiety that in which I really lose control of my emotions (I don't yell or anything, but I just start spouting off all of my fears and doubts). I am determined to overcome these feelings, but every time I feel like I'm getting things under control something happens again. The thing that is making it the hardest is that she broke up with me because she needed to figure some things out, but at the same time she leaves the door open, saying she doesn't know that we won't date again. I love her very much (and she says she loves me still), so the door being open makes it very difficult for me to move on. I have no interest in dating anyone else right now - and at this point that doesn't really matter anyway because I am going crazy (and girls seem to be less attracted to crazy guys). She has been very understanding of my acting crazy and is there for me as a friend, but still doesn't want to date me right now. How do I overcome the feelings of anxiety and depression that I've been going through? I keep thinking that time will heal things, but it hasn't. We have hooked up a few times since we broke up and that seems to make things a lot harder for the next week or so afterward. I know that I probably need to cut off all contact with her and close the door myself, but it's hard because I want things to work out still - and I believe she wants it to work out too at some point (I think this because she hasn't written me off for good yet in spite of my acting very insecure at times). I probably just need to close the door myself.
OhMittens Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I probably just need to close the door myself. You obviously know what needs to be done, you just need to be able to do it... and stick with it.
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