musemaj11 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 In my 25 years of life, I have only been asked out twice. First by an overweight woman and second by a hardly attractive single mother. So these two occurrences definitely did not flatter me at all. I felt like they initiated interest in me out of desperation because no one else wanted them which made me felt very ugly. Im just curious about how it feels to have an attractive and desirable woman initiates interest and asks you out for those who have had this experience? Did it flatter you and make you feel wanted? Did it make you grow a big head? Did it make you have less attraction? I dont think Im desirable enough to have first hand experience on this. So I can only hope to hear from others.
smudge21 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It does happen. My most recent ex (yep, didn't work out too well) was simply stunning. No two ways about it. I met her through mutual interests/work so at the time I didn't give it a second thought. She was younger, financial secure, confident, mature (for her age) and of course, way out of my league. I think due to the fact I went into meeting with her without any ideas about making a move, I was able to talk to her like a normal human being. Not caring whether I mess up or say the wrong thing. I reckon she either saw that as confidence or just someone treating her with respect and honesty. She did say herself after we'd hooked up, that I was so different to the usual guys that chat her up - to which I replied you chatted me up! Even though it's over now, I still keep it in the back of my mind as a confidence booster. Her modelling pics did get brought out during a lads night out not so long ago, and I was asked the question "how did I pull that?"... my answer is always the same "I don't know!"...
utterer of lies Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Im just curious about how it feels to have an attractive and desirable woman initiates interest and asks you out for those who have had this experience? Did it flatter you and make you feel wanted? Did it make you grow a big head? Did it make you have less attraction? The prettiest woman who ever asked me out: It sucked, because she was one of my gf's best friends and was asking me when my gf was at a conference for a week. If I would have been single, I guess would have been quite happy about it. It did provide me with a big of an ego boost, which is probably a bad thing considering the normal size of my ego.
TheCoolest Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I have had two very goodlooking woman blatantly ask me out. Both time were in high school. And both times they ended up asking me out because they were shooting me hints for the better part of the school year and i was too stupid/scared to pick up on them. As i got older i found it easier to pick up on a girls interest in me right away. I find that most guys don't get asked out by woman simply because woman don't like rejection. They want to shoot you hints and then they want you to do the asking. So if you pick up on those hints fast enough usually you will be the one doing the asking. If you don't then chances are she will just forget about you and move on. But on rare occasions she will do the asking herself.
utterer of lies Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 You two are POS. :rolleyes: And why is that?
carhill Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I've never been 'asked out' but have been sexually propositioned by married women. I don't think that counts I'd probably feel flattered, regardless, since I have vast experience with 'asking out' and with being rejected. I could wear those shoes pretty easily.
tb24 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I guess it depends on what you mean by 'asked out'. To me 'asking out' occurs after at least some sign of mutual interest. I've been approached/hit on by girls of varying attractiveness though. As for asking out, my current girlfriend who I met online asked me on our first date, but this was after I'd asked her previously and she couldn't make it What I will say, is that the less attractive* girls seem more likely to make the first move because they think you're not likely. Anyway, I'd always take it as a compliment *or girls with low self esteem who think themselves unattractive
somedude81 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 The only girls who have ever made it known they were interested in me, have been significantly overweight. One of them did have a cute face and I ended up "dating" her for two weeks
mo mo Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It has happened to me a few times. I was like wait.. what? You're getting ahead of me here, I was supposed to ask you out.. I was leading up to that! Yea it kinda catches me off guard and I look like a bit of a dork in the process.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 In my 25 years of life, I have only been asked out twice. First by an overweight woman and second by a hardly attractive single mother. So these two occurrences definitely did not flatter me at all. I felt like they initiated interest in me out of desperation because no one else wanted them which made me felt very ugly. Im just curious about how it feels to have an attractive and desirable woman initiates interest and asks you out for those who have had this experience? Did it flatter you and make you feel wanted? Did it make you grow a big head? Did it make you have less attraction? I dont think Im desirable enough to have first hand experience on this. So I can only hope to hear from others. When I was 18, a hot girl who lived across the street asked me out. We went on a couple of dates but for various reasons it didn't work out. Another neighbour (who actually lived next door) repeatedly invited me over to hang out. She was also hot and a total slut, and it was obvious what she wanted. For some reason, I chose not to pursue that opportunity. I was a lot more insecure in those days and thought that banging the girl next door (literally) would have been weird. Did it make me grow a big head? Not really. It was flattering I guess but to be perfectly honest I didn't think much of it. And it certainly did not make me have less attraction.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 In my 25 years of life, I have only been asked out twice. First by an overweight woman and second by a hardly attractive single mother. So these two occurrences definitely did not flatter me at all. I felt like they initiated interest in me out of desperation because no one else wanted them which made me felt very ugly. Im just curious about how it feels to have an attractive and desirable woman initiates interest and asks you out for those who have had this experience? Did it flatter you and make you feel wanted? Did it make you grow a big head? Did it make you have less attraction? I dont think Im desirable enough to have first hand experience on this. So I can only hope to hear from others. And this is why girls DON'T ask guys out. Because you assume that we're desperate if we do and if you haven't asked us out first, then you're probably not attracted to us anyway. No matter how flirtatious you are being. I hate it, since I am a very open person and would be fine with asking out men out. In fact, I've done it many times, but for the most part, it hasn't worked out to my favor.
Cracker Jack Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 This has taken place a few times in my life. It felt good, but I thought it was too good to be true--so I didn't take it as seriously as I would've liked.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Personally... I don't like it very much when women ask me out. It makes me feel indebted. As though I have to reward her bravery by not rejecting her.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Personally... I don't like it very much when women ask me out. It makes me feel indebted. As though I have to reward her bravery by not rejecting her. I know you will think this is strange, but actually, a lot of girls feel that way too when a guy asks them out. I know that I do. You just have to say no when its not the right thing, whether you are a guy or a girl. I've asked out guys and been rejected by them (and also accepted a few times) and you just get over it if it happens.
Rinnix Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Anyone want to go for dinner? I recall asking my boyfriend out, he was more then pleased. To this day he tells me that he has no idea why someone who looks like me would be interested in him. I just think hes crazy.
ImJustAGuy Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Yes, I have, and it totally makes you feel like Superman for the week! There's just something wonderful about being the average guy approached by the girl of - even if it's not the girl of your dreams, somebody's dreams!
Author musemaj11 Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 (edited) Anyone want to go for dinner? I recall asking my boyfriend out, he was more then pleased. To this day he tells me that he has no idea why someone who looks like me would be interested in him. I just think hes crazy. That's what I'm talking about. I just want to know the feeling being asked out by someone who makes me think "I can't believe someone like her would ask me out." Lol Edited June 21, 2011 by musemaj11
Author musemaj11 Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 The truth is that attractive men get asked out all the time. Many women would not think twice about asking Brad Pitt out (even though they might face rejection). Many years ago, I went out with a strickingly handsome man, and I couldn't believe how women were blatantly "throwing themselves" at him, right in front of me. What exactly is a handsome guy? I have seen guys whom I think are good looking but I never really saw an instance where a guy is so good looking that all the women around him turn their heads or flock to him and try to chat him up like when a beautiful woman walks into a room full of men.
Ginger Beer Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 It does happen. My most recent ex (yep, didn't work out too well) was simply stunning. No two ways about it. I met her through mutual interests/work so at the time I didn't give it a second thought. She was younger, financial secure, confident, mature (for her age) and of course, way out of my league. I think due to the fact I went into meeting with her without any ideas about making a move, I was able to talk to her like a normal human being. Not caring whether I mess up or say the wrong thing. I reckon she either saw that as confidence or just someone treating her with respect and honesty. She did say herself after we'd hooked up, that I was so different to the usual guys that chat her up - to which I replied you chatted me up! Even though it's over now, I still keep it in the back of my mind as a confidence booster. Her modelling pics did get brought out during a lads night out not so long ago, and I was asked the question "how did I pull that?"... my answer is always the same "I don't know!"... Any chance of a pic mate? Just messing, made me laugh though.
Monm82 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 It's something I'm not used to. I'm overweight, too. When it happened, my stomach was doing backflips, and I felt like I was on top of the world.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 And this is why girls DON'T ask guys out. Because you assume that we're desperate if we do and if you haven't asked us out first, then you're probably not attracted to us anyway. No matter how flirtatious you are being. I hate it, since I am a very open person and would be fine with asking out men out. In fact, I've done it many times, but for the most part, it hasn't worked out to my favor. Ummm, he said that he felt repulsed because the women in question were ugly and undesirable, not because they did the asking. I'm sure he would have felt very differently if those women were hot and had no kids. It works the same way when a guy approaches a woman. If the guy was ugly, she would label him a "creep" (and tell all her friends what a loser he is). If the guy was hot, she'd be "feeling the butterflies".
PJKino Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Ummm, he said that he felt repulsed because the women in question were ugly and undesirable, not because they did the asking. I'm sure he would have felt very differently if those women were hot and had no kids. It works the same way when a guy approaches a woman. If the guy was ugly, she would label him a "creep" (and tell all her friends what a loser he is). If the guy was hot, she'd be "feeling the butterflies". So true.......
StoneCold Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I've had attractive women throw themlseves at me...but never really "asked me out" and thank god. I hate being put on the spot. I'd rather they just toss out the "welcome mat" and let me decide if I want to wipe my feet or not. But dont get too taken with looks...that stuff fades fast..... as the saying goes "show me a hot woman and I'll show you a guy thats tired of her"
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