tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Some time last month BF and I were talking about his family. He mentioned that when they meet me they'll think I look like someone in particular. I asked who and he didn't say. I bugged him about it on and off and he didn't tell me until recently, I guess because he was embarrassed. As you can see from the thread title, I apparently resemble his mom. It doesn't really bother me now, but having even a slight resemblance to an SO's family member is not something I've encountered until now, so it was somewhat jarring for me. I like to consider it an odd compliment, as he does love his mom and he said she's beautiful, particularly in her youth. Has anyone else dealt with looking like an SO's family member? Is it common?
Jono85 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 no, but that is VERY weird. i'm surprised this guy is cool with that. if my mom EVER entered my head when i was fooling around with my gf, that'd be it!
TheCoolest Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Some time last month BF and I were talking about his family. He mentioned that when they meet me they'll think I look like someone in particular. I asked who and he didn't say. I bugged him about it on and off and he didn't tell me until recently, I guess because he was embarrassed. As you can see from the thread title, I apparently resemble his mom. It doesn't really bother me now, but having even a slight resemblance to an SO's family member is not something I've encountered until now, so it was somewhat jarring for me. I like to consider it an odd compliment, as he does love his mom and he said she's beautiful, particularly in her youth. Has anyone else dealt with looking like an SO's family member? Is it common? Have you seen his mother? Maybe you don't really look as much like her as you think. And you have to take into account that you are a beautiful woman (if that is you in that picture) so you looking like my mom sure wouldn't stop me. I have never had to deal with looking like a girls family member. I mean as far as race, height, and build goes yes. But as far as facial features no. I think its pretty common for a guy to go after a girl who is somewhat like his mother as far as general appearance goes. Now if you meet her and you guys look like twins now i would think that was a really weird. I heard somewhere that guys tend to go after girls who look like there mother/sister just because those were the first positive interactions they had with females in there lives.
utterer of lies Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Some time last month BF and I were talking about his family. He mentioned that when they meet me they'll think I look like someone in particular. I asked who and he didn't say. I bugged him about it on and off and he didn't tell me until recently, I guess because he was embarrassed. As you can see from the thread title, I apparently resemble his mom. It doesn't really bother me now, but having even a slight resemblance to an SO's family member is not something I've encountered until now, so it was somewhat jarring for me. I like to consider it an odd compliment, as he does love his mom and he said she's beautiful, particularly in her youth. Has anyone else dealt with looking like an SO's family member? Is it common? Yes, it is common, and its nothing to worry about. Just another facet of the strength of human imprinting. Many girls prefer men who resemble their daddy, and many men prefer women who resemble their mother. Its just that many people downplay it because it's deemed wrong by many, and the Oedipus gave the whole thing a bad name
Author tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Have you seen his mother? Maybe you don't really look as much like her as you think. And you have to take into account that you are a beautiful woman (if that is you in that picture) so you looking like my mom sure wouldn't stop me. I have never had to deal with looking like a girls family member. I mean as far as race, height, and build goes yes. But as far as facial features no. I think its pretty common for a guy to go after a girl who is somewhat like his mother as far as general appearance goes. Now if you meet her and you guys look like twins now i would think that was a really weird. I heard somewhere that guys tend to go after girls who look like there mother/sister just because those were the first positive interactions they had with females in there lives. Yes, that is me in the picture. Thanks I never had to deal with this in even the slightest way before now. So naturally it made me feel a bit strange. I haven't met his mom or seen pictures of her, and I know I'm not her spitting image. BF said that he can't even really pinpoint exactly what it is, that it's just a general resemblance. I am curious to see what she looks like, though. Utterer, I do remember reading up a bit on imprinting. And I did read the Oedipus trilogy too. It's interesting because I personally have always had an aversion to men who I felt resembled my father or brother in some way.
TheCoolest Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Another stupid stupid stupid thread. Aww. I see you are just a troll. I apologize for feeding you earlier.
utterer of lies Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Utterer, I do remember reading up a bit on imprinting. And I did read the Oedipus trilogy too. It's interesting because I personally have always had an aversion to men who I felt resembled my father or brother in some way. You probably have a negative imprint towards your father, and look out for men obviously different from him. Now the interesting questions is - who is it that the men you prefer resemble?
welikeincrowds Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I laughed out loud at the thread title. The only time it ever concerned me was when I was once told to "**** me daddy" in bed. It didn't creep me out, but I didn't know what to make of it.
Jono85 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Every post I've seen of yours has been idiotic. i'm flattered you're following my posts
Author tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I laughed out loud at the thread title. The only time it ever concerned me was when I was once told to "**** me daddy" in bed. It didn't creep me out, but I didn't know what to make of it. :lmao: That's gross! I always told boyfriends if they used that sort of "who's yer daddy" talk around me that it would be awhile before I touched them again. And please no more off-topic posts. I will report every single one.
Cee Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 My uncle remarried a woman who looked very much like his adult daughter. Their coloring was exactly the same with similar features. It was pure coincidence and everyone knew that. The only awkward part was she looks so much more like her step-mom than her bio mom. People are very careful not to point that out lest to offend the real mother. But I bet strangers have said, "You must be X's mom. You two look so much alike." It's good to have a sense of humor in these situations.
Author tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I recently met some of my BF's extended family and some of them actually did double takes when they saw me. They couldn't get over how much I looked like his mother (she's deceased). My BF was a bit taken aback. He'd never noticed before but had to agree. He laughingly told people to stop talking about it because it was going to freak him out. I later found a picture of his mother and yes, we look very similar. It feels a little strange but it doesn't bother me. This is what I'm thinking may happen. I am wondering if BF may be downplaying the resemblance as he first said his siblings would see it right away, and because he had refused to tell me for so long in the first place. I won't be meeting his family for awhile yet though, as they're on the other side of the world.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It's not that big of deal. It's one of those secrets of the dating world that none of us like to talk about like other people said. I am attracted to men that look like my Dad. Hate to admit it, but I find guys who wear glasses and have lots of body hair to be attractive. They don't look identical to my Dad, but the similarities are there. I also like men who are hard working and that I can respect like my Dad. And who are open-minded like him. Does this mean I am attracted to my Dad? Ew. Gross! No way. It's just the model I've been given by my Mother of what makes a good man. And my current boyfriend and his Mom have similarities as well. We both are the same height, similar hair, and large breasts. He has a weakness for this type of woman but I know he's not in love with his Mom. Had an ex who truly was in love with his Mom and her with him and its DIFFERENT. Goes way beyond physical similarities.
westrock Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Dating someone who looks like one's parents seems to be more common occurance than we think. Here's a news article discussing this very topic: http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/story?id=97964 What would be more interesting is not the physical resemblance with his mother, but more whether there are similar character traits between you and either of his parents as mentioned in this article: http://articles.cnn.com/2009-02-11/living/lw.programmed.to.marry.parents_1_share-mom-parent
Author tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Dating someone who looks like one's parents seems to be more common occurance than we think. Here's a news article discussing this very topic: http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/story?id=97964 What would be more interesting is not the physical resemblance with his mother, but more whether there are similar character traits between you and either of his parents as mentioned in this article: http://articles.cnn.com/2009-02-11/living/lw.programmed.to.marry.parents_1_share-mom-parent Interesting. I don't know about me being similar to BF's mom in terms of character traits. I'd have to ask him. Thinking about it, there are some similarities between my BF and my dad. --black hair/eyes --body hair --frequent absentminded singing/humming --once a task is begun they keep going until it's done --like to swear --watch sports on TV (BF is only the second guy I dated seriously who likes to follow any sport) --like to tease and get a rise out of people --not the best at managing money --can be a little slow on the uptake --homebodies Hah! Looks like I've found my dad in personality if not in looks.
EasyHeart Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Women all want to marry someone like their dad, and men all want to marry someone like their mom. That's why I'm addicted to sassy blondes. And that's why the song goes: I want a girl Just like the girl That married dear old dad.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I took my 13 year old son on his first movie date. We picked the little girl up and they were riding in the back seat. He asked for my phone to take a picture of her. Then he tells her, " you are so pretty, you look just like my mom!" We laughed until we cried and his dad told him to never say that to a girl. I don't think it's out of the ordinary. I've always been attracted to men who resemble my father (tall, olive complexion, dark hair ect...)
Ross MwcFan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It's supposed to be very common for women to be attracted to guys or settle down with guys who look similar to their dads, and for guys to be attracted to or settle down with girls who look like thier mums. Sounds really creepy to me. How could anyone have sex with someone who looks like their parent? I've never found girls who look like my mum to be attractive.
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