MAGGIE15 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 This is my first post on here, and i am just looking for justification that i am not going mad.!! My ex and i were together for approximately 18 months and he finally decided he didnt want to see me anymore in April. I tried so hard to be friends ( hoping he would change his mind) and i found it so difficult. I have now started NC and it has been 2 weeks since we last spoke. I just feel like this sadness has enveloped me and i cant shake it off. Part of me hopes he will contact me, but i also know he is very stubborn and he wont. I have so many emotions in my head at the moment, i dont know im feeling. Im depresed, sad, upset, and think about him 24/7. The loneliness is also beginning to sink in. I still want to contact him as i know he will reply to me, even though it will be cold and matter of fact ( that is the only thing keeping me going at the moment and sticking to NC). I have accepted that it is over and we will never be together again, but i just can shake these feelings. I know they will fade over time, and hopefully the longer i go NC the more determined i will become to get on with my life. Im just finding it so difficult at the moment. Any advice on how to keep moving forward would be great and how to deal with all these awful feelings i have.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 personally, I take fish oil capsules daily and I exercise daily. if you're allergic to fish you can also get flax seed pills. the pills contain Omega Fatty Acids which make you feel good. exercising will cause your brain to release endorphins which will make you feel great. not to mention all that exercise will get you in better shape meaning you will be more attractive for when you decide to jump back into the dating pool again. also pick up a new hobby, I started playing the guitar after my breakup which has given me new goals to strive for. rather than striving to get my ex back I'll set a goal to learn a certain song or to just practice for 20 minutes each day. the beginning of my 3rd week of NC was the hardest (just a heads up) but after I got past that I honestly don't even think I want to get in touch with my ex. I know they will fade over time, and hopefully the longer i go NC the more determined i will become to get on with my life. yes they fade, I still think of my ex quite often but the thoughts aren't filled with sadness or resentment. And Yes NC will work if you stick to it.
thelovingkind Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 All your feelings are totally normal and to be expected: the loneliness; craving even the most meagre of contact (how horrible is it that we pine for a single text, when just weeks before hugs, kisses and the sweetest, most unexpectedly lovely messages were available on tap); the combustion of acceptance and denial; being consumed by thoughts of him, and thoughts of knowing that he's not consumed by thoughts of you. All you can do is stick with the NC and wait it out. I firmly believe that once you start with NC then things can only improve in the long run. Starve the beast of oxygen and its days are numbered
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