phineas Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If you see someone who is checking you out, whether it's a subtle peek or a full-blown stare with accompanying 180 degree head turn and audible "damn...", do you acknowledge them or look away and pretend that you don't notice? I was doing a GTL run yesterday afternoon around the National Mall in DC during peak hours when it was packed (yes, it's how I get my ego stroked...), and when I get a look, I usually just keep my eyes straight ahead, "play it cool," and pretend I don't notice. Is smiling back at someone who is staring you down appropriate, or is it just weird? Perhaps it depends on the situation? What about when you're just out and about in a more casual atmosphere? I've dropped 85lbs. went from a 48W to a 32W in the last few yrs. Got some muscle on me also. Only top two abs showing but it's only a matter of time. Women just straight up eye-rape me & I gotta say I have no idea what the hell to do when their easily 10 to 15yrs younger than me. It also makes me very uncomfortable because i'm just not used to the attention. If their closer to my age I just go talk to them for a little then ask for their number. Not a lot of dudes my age in decent shape these days. (39) But when their younger I feel weird trying to hit on them so I just act like it isn't happening.
snug.bunny Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 There was a nice looking man standing in front of me today at the supermarket, I couldn't help notice his buttocks and a part of me wanted to pinch them, but that would be inappropriate.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 Women just straight up eye-rape me & I gotta say I have no idea what the hell to do when their easily 10 to 15yrs younger than me. It also makes me very uncomfortable because i'm just not used to the attention. If their closer to my age I just go talk to them for a little then ask for their number. Not a lot of dudes my age in decent shape these days. (39) But when their younger I feel weird trying to hit on them so I just act like it isn't happening. I remember all about your story, phineas, and at your age, being in decent shape puts you SOOO far ahead of your peers...it's almost unfair... So I think you can understand where I'm coming from in that you really don't know how to react or whether to even react...and like you, regardless of who it is, I just act like I don't notice it...
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 There was a nice looking man standing in front of me today at the supermarket, I couldn't help notice his buttocks and a part of me wanted to pinch them, but that would be inappropriate. Not as inappropriate as you might think... I actually met and dated a girl for a little while who approached me in a similar manner...though it was not the buttocks...I wish...
D-Lish Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I act like I don't notice it as well. I don't make eye contact because it makes me feel nervous when someone checks me out.
snug.bunny Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Not as inappropriate as you might think... I actually met and dated a girl for a little while who approached me in a similar manner...though it was not the buttocks...I wish... I pretended not to notice him when I had to go around him to stand in line. And being that he was tall and had on these form fitting shorts on, it was right in my face! :lmao:
phineas Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I remember all about your story, phineas, and at your age, being in decent shape puts you SOOO far ahead of your peers...it's almost unfair... So I think you can understand where I'm coming from in that you really don't know how to react or whether to even react...and like you, regardless of who it is, I just act like I don't notice it... If I was in a bar, sure i'd talk to them. But I walk down to the corner store & the 20 something is feasting on my arms & shoulders in my tank-top. The late 20's girl at the good will is flirting hard with me & looking me up & down while i'm donating my fat clothes. Chicks at work are the worst. I think because they knew me when I was 260lbs. Now that i'm 175 & dropping. slowly at this point since I don't have a lot more to loose. I can feel their eyes on me & since i'm a man I have the peripheral mastery & can use that to see their checking me out. At my kids school, the other kids mom's kept looking over at me while I was helping with an activity. These are all married women. I'm just not used to this.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I can feel their eyes on me & since i'm a man I have the peripheral mastery & can use that to see their checking me out. Hahah, of course. Gotta use those peripherals!!! I'm just not used to this. I'm sometimes still in denial that it's actually happening...
tami-chan Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Acknowledge with a smile ONLY if you like what you see..otherwise, IGNORE. BTW, my niece who is 22 years old and her friends run regularly in a nearby park and I made the mistake of running with them one time and YES, they do say "damn!"(when checking out the opposite sex)...totally shameless:D...must be generational.
Finch Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Like a few others, I'm generally oblivious to men checking me out unless someone else draws my attention to it. The only exception to this is senior men. For whatever reason I always notice if they are noticing me! Maybe because they tend to look so directly and for such a long time. They don't so much glance as have a good long gaze. And there's no good response to that.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 Aren't you in a relationship? Not that I'm aware of....
Dust Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Aren't you in a relationship? Not that I'm aware of.... Ouch, sounds like something a HS girl would say about a guy who thought they were dating.
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If you see someone who is checking you out, whether it's a subtle peek or a full-blown stare with accompanying 180 degree head turn and audible "damn...", do you acknowledge them or look away and pretend that you don't notice? I was on my way to a date last week when I noticed someone checking me out. I don't usually notice people doing this, so either I had made a better effort in my appearance (because I was going on a date) or I was more sensitive to noticing (because I was going on a date). Anyway, I smiled back, she smiled back, then we walked past each other and I continued on my way. Then it happened again a few minutes later with a different girl.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I was on my way to a date last week when I noticed someone checking me out. I don't usually notice people doing this, so either I had made a better effort in my appearance (because I was going on a date) or I was more sensitive to noticing (because I was going on a date). Anyway, I smiled back, she smiled back, then we walked past each other and I continued on my way. Then it happened again a few minutes later with a different girl. And this is kind of what I mean by all of this. Smiling to another person as a friendly acknowledgement doesn't mean you're trying to get in their pants...but a lot of folks seem to presume it as such and will be offended if a stranger acknowledges them whilst out and about...I see it instead as a way to brighten up your own day and perhaps that other person's day as well...and it's good practice for when it actually matters during game time...
radiodarcy Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 (edited) not really. i may do a double take but that's about it (just to see they are actually looking at me). no point in acknowledging it - - esp where i live. the ratio is like 8 women for every man so there are plenty of women to look at -- i'm just one of many. most of the time i just pretend not to notice. i don't like being "checked out" it makes me uncomfortable. Edited June 21, 2011 by radiodarcy
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Usually, no. However the other day I was at the store and this kid (probably like 15-16) was just staring and staring. Finally I looked over and made eye contact with him and smiled. He turned so red but smiled back. I thought it was cute. Nothing like a smile from an "older woman" to make a barely-pubescent teenager's day.
The Connoisseur Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If I acknowledged everyone who glanced at me longingly I would never get anything done.
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