USMCHokie Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If you see someone who is checking you out, whether it's a subtle peek or a full-blown stare with accompanying 180 degree head turn and audible "damn...", do you acknowledge them or look away and pretend that you don't notice? I was doing a GTL run yesterday afternoon around the National Mall in DC during peak hours when it was packed (yes, it's how I get my ego stroked...), and when I get a look, I usually just keep my eyes straight ahead, "play it cool," and pretend I don't notice. Is smiling back at someone who is staring you down appropriate, or is it just weird? Perhaps it depends on the situation? What about when you're just out and about in a more casual atmosphere?
Star Gazer Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If you see someone who is checking you out, whether it's a subtle peek or a full-blown stare with accompanying 180 degree head turn and audible "damn...", do you acknowledge them or look away and pretend that you don't notice? Do women actually do that? Honestly? If there's just a quick peek or an up-and-down polite acknowledgement, I usually just make eye-contact and smile. But a "damn" is a cat-call, not worth acknowledging.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I've never seen someone do this. I'm extremely oblivious to these things.
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Maybe she stubbed her toe and that was what the "damn" was for I have always just moved on... it's no different than when a guy cat calls a girl.. it means nothing so nothing should be done about it.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I've never seen someone do this. I'm extremely oblivious to these things. I usually am incredibly oblivious to it too, but it was extremely blatant while I was running...it was impossible not to notice. I kind of feel like it could be awkward if I acknowledged them...
SmileFace Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 You should only acknowledge it if you are interested. However, most girls would guack then act like it never happened when you acknowledge it. Like today I was in Walmart with my sister and this HAWT worker walked into the back room and I did a full 180 turn around. I mean I actually turned around just to see him walk in the back. I am pretty sure he didn't see me(hopefully) but I didn't really do it for him to acknowledge but he was just fun to look at. However lets say if he smiled back at me and I decided to approach him, then to only find out he wasn't iterested. Anyway to the point, only acknowledge if you are interested.
Lilmisus Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I don't typically acknowledge it. Just because most of the time, I'm not trying to look good for the guys to gawk at, and for them to blatantly check me out and nudge their buddies like "hey look" just annoys the sh*t out of me, and actually makes me feel somewhat insecure sometimes. There have been a few cases though, where I have given a smile here or there, but it really depends on the guys and if I think that they're cute, or if they at least look like decent guys, ya know? I say, just do whatever feels comfortable depending on the situation. You could do the whole wink and smile bit though, or maybe blow them a kiss if they're checking you out...would be hilarious to see some of their reactions.
Kaplan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I've also wondered what I'm supposed to do when people are checking me out. Just the other day I made a decision that the next time I see a girl checking me out I'm going to wink at her. I'd love to see how they react. I don't think anybody's ever seen anybody wink in real life. On a side note, how do you wink without looking like you have a nervous twitch? I'm thinking you have to move your head while you do it. I'm going to have to practice in the mirror sometime. I probably never will get around to winking at anybody; winking at a complete stranger is pretty odd behaviour even for me. Anyway, for me, I assume that people are trying to flirt when they make it obvious that they are checking me out. Not that women check me out all that often. When I do catch a girl staring at me . . . well lets face it, there's probably just a poster behind me that she's reading.
cerridwen Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I don't acknowledge it usually because I'm a female and it puts me on the defensive when it's too overt. For you though, if she's your type or otherwise strikes you as cool, a smile is appropriate.
Lilmisus Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I've also wondered what I'm supposed to do when people are checking me out. Just the other day I made a decision that the next time I see a girl checking me out I'm going to wink at her. I'd love to see how they react. I don't think anybody's ever seen anybody wink in real life. On a side note, how do you wink without looking like you have a nervous twitch? I'm thinking you have to move your head while you do it. I'm going to have to practice in the mirror sometime. I probably never will get around to winking at anybody; winking at a complete stranger is pretty odd behaviour even for me. Anyway, for me, I assume that people are trying to flirt when they make it obvious that they are checking me out. Not that women check me out all that often. When I do catch a girl staring at me . . . well lets face it, there's probably just a poster behind me that she's reading. I wink. Typically when I'm just goofing around though, and especially when I'm impersonating guys trying to hit on girls. I do the whole nod and wink thing when I'm impersonating guys..quite fun.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I say, just do whatever feels comfortable depending on the situation. You could do the whole wink and smile bit though, or maybe blow them a kiss if they're checking you out...would be hilarious to see some of their reactions. This could be brilliantly entertaining...hahah... But seriously though, I'm not out to pick anyone up and much more often than not, these girls are walking with their men. Forget smiling or otherwise acknowledging...would you even make eye contact?
Lilmisus Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 This could be brilliantly entertaining...hahah... But seriously though, I'm not out to pick anyone up and much more often than not, these girls are walking with their men. Forget smiling or otherwise acknowledging...would you even make eye contact? I say go for it if the woman is staring hard enough Me personally? No I wouldn't make eye contact. Not worth it most of the time.
grkBoy Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I'm terrible. I never notice when someone's checking me out. Friends will usually point out to me later how some girl was checking me out.
daphne Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If they're cute and respectful, I'll flash a smile and keep walking.
sally4sara Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 No, not really. It would serve no purpose other than encouraging more direct interaction and I'm not available. Genuine compliments get a thank you but nothing else beyond that.
musemaj11 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I cannot tell if a woman checks me out or interested in me. One time I talked to a woman and after she left my female friend said that she liked me because she noticed her face turned reddish while talking to me. I was like, "I absolutely did not notice that."
Ruby Slippers Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I respond only if I'm drawn to him. So if he smiles and gives me the eyes, I will do the same. If I'm not drawn to him, I might smile involuntarily, but then look away.
tb24 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I, like most men apparently, am rubbish at actually knowing! Short of the few times girls have come up to me and called me gorgeous
tigressA Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Me and a friend pulled up to the bank yesterday. There was a man standing next to a motorcycle getting ready to leave. He was omg hot. So I said to my friend, "wow, I'd like one of those." She asked, "the bike?". And I said, "No, the guy!". I totally forgot the window was down and he heard every word. He turned and gave a killer smile and a wink, waved, got on his bike and roared away. I was so embarassed but laughing at the same time. His response was perfect. That is so cool! Could've made for a meet-cute story if you weren't attached already. To answer the OP, I don't acknowledge people who check me out as I'm mostly oblivious to it in the first place. I thank those who compliment me nicely, smile, keep on going.
eerie_reverie Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Stares and cat-calls I ignore. But more often than not, I get comments which stike me as genuine, non-threatening, and nice, aka, "You look pretty," or, "You got a ghetto booty for a white girl." In those situations, I smile and say thanks. I like compliments.
alethean Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 (edited) But more often than not, I get comments which stike me as genuine, non-threatening, and nice, aka, "You look pretty," or, "You got a ghetto booty for a white girl." In those situations, I smile and say thanks. I like compliments. Lol. The second one is a compliment?? Edited June 20, 2011 by alethean
Stung Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If they're cute and respectful, I'll flash a smile and keep walking. Yeah, pretty much. But then, I am not in a position where I need or want to be picking up prospects. If you're open to meeting new people, I can't see why it would be inappropriate to acknowledge their admiration and maybe strike up a casual conversation. I'd steer clear of anyone actually leering or catcalling, obviously, because I'd assume they were tacky at best, unstable at worst. I've heard the ghetto booty thing too, and yes, it's generally said as a compliment.
Banker Chick Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If it's not done in an uber creepy way, I just sort of smile to myself and look away. There have been a couple times I had to laugh and give a little wave ... one time I could tell this truck was matching my speed so I finally looked over and they held up a handwritten sign that said "You're hot!" and the other day another truck was driving next to me and I glanced over and it appeared to be filled with younger guys (it was an extended cab) and they were all nudging each other and smiling and waving. It made my day and I had to smile and do a little wave back. I just try to be careful not to give anyone the wrong idea so I then try to distance myself in traffic.
Kaplan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If it's not done in an uber creepy way, I just sort of smile to myself and look away. There have been a couple times I had to laugh and give a little wave ... one time I could tell this truck was matching my speed so I finally looked over and they held up a handwritten sign that said "You're hot!" and the other day another truck was driving next to me and I glanced over and it appeared to be filled with younger guys (it was an extended cab) and they were all nudging each other and smiling and waving. It made my day and I had to smile and do a little wave back. I just try to be careful not to give anyone the wrong idea so I then try to distance myself in traffic. Hmm . . . have you checked your car for graffiti? I have a feeling someone wrote something on your car like "I'm a slut" or put a bumper sticker on without your permission.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 Well I certainly don't go out and run with any intention of trying to pick up women, and besides, it's so crowded there that it would actually look a bit awkward for me to stop in mid-stride and talk to people. During the peak hours, it's a constant stream of people going in both directions on the path around the Reflecting Pool, and I often see the same people multiple times walking around the loop. It's a steady stream of glaring...from both the girls and the guys...great for my terrible insecurities... I might try something different next weekend...just making eye contact and perhaps a friendly smile back if I catch their glimpse...I just hope I get less of "oh crap, he caught me looking" and more of "oh, he seems nice"...
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