just_scott Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 HI o.k. i'm struggeling here with the contact , n/c would like to hear your opinons on this . IF you want your ex back i get n/c makes her wonder what your up to etc . and with contact after a break up you may come off as desperite ,wanting her back etc . MY story is basically she dumpped me and gave me no reason why [my post here is titled ''this hurts'' ] i got dummped a month ago .after 4 yrs together with no one raiseing voices .I'D like to hear what she has to say [honestly] i'd even like to imagine her comming here and saying ''can we talk'' [i've asked her to BUT she says she has nothing to say , or if we talked it wouldn't change anything . SINCE i'm the dumpee and it all came out of nowhere ,I still have feelings for the girl and think whatever the issue that made her dump me could be straightend out if we spoke and she was honest and sincere . Shouldn't someone in my position leave the door to communication open ? i feel we have un resolved issues .
coolheadal Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 HI o.k. i'm struggeling here with the contact , n/c would like to hear your opinons on this . IF you want your ex back i get n/c makes her wonder what your up to etc . and with contact after a break up you may come off as desperite ,wanting her back etc . MY story is basically she dumpped me and gave me no reason why [my post here is titled ''this hurts'' ] i got dummped a month ago .after 4 yrs together with no one raiseing voices .I'D like to hear what she has to say [honestly] i'd even like to imagine her comming here and saying ''can we talk'' [i've asked her to BUT she says she has nothing to say , or if we talked it wouldn't change anything . SINCE i'm the dumpee and it all came out of nowhere ,I still have feelings for the girl and think whatever the issue that made her dump me could be straightend out if we spoke and she was honest and sincere . Shouldn't someone in my position leave the door to communication open ? i feel we have un resolved issues . What's the out come of this?
TearyEyedPride Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Ok... so let's look at it this way... you've already tried talking to her and communicating with her. And... it hasn't helped right? She herself has said... she has "Nothing to say" when you want answers. She won't give them to you though... So legally and morally, there are no other ways to make a person give you the answers you need with some sort of compromise. You love her, but it's over. Give her the space she needs to go on with her life and take that same time to do the same for yourself. If she wants to talk again, make sure you let her know she has to be straight with you. Even then... you can't force her. But it will make a fool out of you to hold on, to something she's already let go.
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