Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 She just sent me another text. It said- "Finally got rid of the freak...so you can come over all the time now! Fancy meeting tonight?" Should I meet her? How should I act? I'm happy but I'm nervous now! LOL - now i know you are on the wind up
Author tep Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 LOL - now i know you are on the wind up I'm really not but I just re read the message back to myself and realised I'm the freak! Oh well, guess that's what I needed to hear to be able to move on. Thank you for all your help. : (
Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I'm really not but I just re read the message back to myself and realised I'm the freak! Oh well, guess that's what I needed to hear to be able to move on. Thank you for all your help. : ( Sorry thought you were taking the piss Thats a tough one though - her sending that text to you by mistake. Id reply "thanks for that" and nothing more Hopefully will make her feel crappy - but dont fly off on one Sorry bud
TheHurtProcess Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Please don't make fun at me, this is my life I apologize, my friend. You just had a good portion of us thinking you were a troll. I'm still somewhat skeptical. It's hard to believe that someone could be so callow in thinking that they can just "pretend" that they didn't hear them right and just show up places as if the breakup never happened. In the case that you are being 100% serious, please accept my apologies. I agree with what everyone else who's been saying. You need to go "No Contact". She doesn't appear to want anything to do with you. Now that you've said your final piece to her, you have to just leave her be. Perhaps in the future she may realize that the relationship is worth another try, perhaps nothing. Either way, remember that NC is not about trying to get your ex to come back, it's about you taking the time to heal, take care of yourself and ultimately move on. Take up some hobbies that you put aside as a result of the relationship. Create some goals to work towards and don't forget to give yourself a deadline. Without a deadline, you're working aimlessly. I know the title of this thread says "how can I get her back?". However, I'm being brutally honest when I say that it's most likely much too late to get her back. Most dumpers tend to have the problems weigh on their mind for weeks or months before they actually come to a decision to end the relationship. She may have ended it in her mind a long time ago and your behavior only pushed her farther away. Regardless of the outcome, I wish you the best of luck. You will find true happiness one day.
lalalandman Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Why do I get the feeling this thread is an absolute joke.... But anyways, she sent that text to you on purpose. It shows what kind of person she really is. Sorry to say she's not coming back, and even if she does, I wouldn't take her back.
Author tep Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I apologize, my friend. You just had a good portion of us thinking you were a troll. I'm still somewhat skeptical. It's hard to believe that someone could be so callow in thinking that they can just "pretend" that they didn't hear them right and just show up places as if the breakup never happened. In the case that you are being 100% serious, please accept my apologies. I agree with what everyone else who's been saying. You need to go "No Contact". She doesn't appear to want anything to do with you. Now that you've said your final piece to her, you have to just leave her be. Perhaps in the future she may realize that the relationship is worth another try, perhaps nothing. Either way, remember that NC is not about trying to get your ex to come back, it's about you taking the time to heal, take care of yourself and ultimately move on. Take up some hobbies that you put aside as a result of the relationship. Create some goals to work towards and don't forget to give yourself a deadline. Without a deadline, you're working aimlessly. I know the title of this thread says "how can I get her back?". However, I'm being brutally honest when I say that it's most likely much too late to get her back. Most dumpers tend to have the problems weigh on their mind for weeks or months before they actually come to a decision to end the relationship. She may have ended it in her mind a long time ago and your behavior only pushed her farther away. Regardless of the outcome, I wish you the best of luck. You will find true happiness one day. That's ok, I can see now why people would think it was a joke. I have obviously been acting crazy. I just didn't know what to do. Thank you all for your kind words and support. I'm gonna log off now.
dreamscape123 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 She just sent me another text. It said- "Finally got rid of the freak...so you can come over all the time now! Fancy meeting tonight?" Should I meet her? How should I act? I'm happy but I'm nervous now! I have to agree that there is a strong chance she may have sent that deliberatly to you... You need to think of yourself. Do not contact her again. Rise above it ... show her this does not bother you. Its childish....Let her see you are not weak and doating after her. It is very empowering. Give yourself the power back. Concentrate on you.... Good luck with it all......
Sugarkane Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 After sending such an insulting text message to you, if I was you I would never even give this woman the time of day ever again.
Author tep Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 Hi guys, Well after I logged off yesterday, she sent me another text saying "sorry, that was a mistake, just like going out with you to begin with, FREAKKKK" I know I shouldn't have replied but I did. I said "Freak only has one K at the end. Goodnight x " I don't even care now, its actually made it easier.
Fufu Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 She is totally mean.. so don't even bother contacting her anymore. She's not worth 1 second of your time. You can move on when you believe you can
Author tep Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Soooo, it's been an interesting few days. Last night I went to a club and met a new girl. We were standing at the bar having a chat when out of nowhere my ex walks straight up to her and says "you should stay away from him, he is a stalker" The girl turned to me and asked what all that was about so I told her what had happened. I didn't see her again for the rest of the night as she was clearly put off by this, as you would expect. Anyway, when I woke up this morning I had a text from my ex. She said sorry for doing that to me last night and that seeing me with a new girl had just made her jelous! WTF!! I havnt replied yet..... What do I say to that?
Mack05 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Soooo, it's been an interesting few days. Last night I went to a club and met a new girl. We were standing at the bar having a chat when out of nowhere my ex walks straight up to her and says "you should stay away from him, he is a stalker" The girl turned to me and asked what all that was about so I told her what had happened. I didn't see her again for the rest of the night as she was clearly put off by this, as you would expect. Anyway, when I woke up this morning I had a text from my ex. She said sorry for doing that to me last night and that seeing me with a new girl had just made her jelous! WTF!! I havnt replied yet..... What do I say to that? Dude you say nothing!!. What she did was cold, hurtful and cruel. In your eyes you should view this girl as a nasty piece of work who you are WAYYY better off without in your life. Focus on yourself mate. You made a few mistakes at the end, so focus on yourself and learn from past mistakes..She should no longer be in your thoughts..Period
Author tep Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Dude you say nothing!!. What she did was cold, hurtful and cruel. In your eyes you should view this girl as a nasty piece of work who you are WAYYY better off without in your life. Focus on yourself mate. You made a few mistakes at the end, so focus on yourself and learn from past mistakes..She should no longer be in your thoughts..Period Thanks for the advice. Yeah your right.....plus it was only a few days ago she was calling me a freak!
Mack05 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Thanks for the advice. Yeah your right.....plus it was only a few days ago she was calling me a freak! Tep if there is one thing I have learnt recently, is that when a girl says no she means no. No amount of begging, pleading, manipulating, coercing is going to change their minds. In future if a girl breaks up with you (no matter how hard done by you feel, or how cruel her behaviour is) then you accept her decision and go immediately NC. I mean would you ever feel comfortable in a relationship with a girl who not only broke up with you, but called you a freak and then bad mouthed you in front of another girl!? Put this down to experience. It's only 3 months, not 3 years..Move on mate and put this girl firmly out of your mind..
geegirl Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Soooo, it's been an interesting few days. Last night I went to a club and met a new girl. We were standing at the bar having a chat when out of nowhere my ex walks straight up to her and says "you should stay away from him, he is a stalker" The girl turned to me and asked what all that was about so I told her what had happened. I didn't see her again for the rest of the night as she was clearly put off by this, as you would expect. Anyway, when I woke up this morning I had a text from my ex. She said sorry for doing that to me last night and that seeing me with a new girl had just made her jelous! WTF!! I havnt replied yet..... What do I say to that? This woman is appalling and repulsive. Just utterly vicious. Don't say anything. I believe she thrives on the drama. And the more you respond, the more you will keep her engaged. Disengage. Completely.
Author tep Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 This women sounds like a real keeper! Knowing that... Have no fear, Homebrew is here. Respond back with this message... "If I can't have you... no one can!". Nothing says "I love you" more than telling her that. Okay, maybe a restraining order says "I love you" more... but this is a close second! Send that too her and get back to us on how she responds. Hahahaha if I sent her that, I'd be locked up in a cell quicker then you can say "kill the bi*#h"
dreamscape123 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Letting her go should be simple to you now.... They way she has behaved towards you has in fact done you a favour. You have now seen her true and what can only be described as cruel colours come out...... After what she has said and done to you should leave you in no doubt that she has no part of your future.... In your position you should be in no doubt now to get on with your own life, and she should not be any part of it... It is ultimatly her loss, and she will never be happy if that is how she treats people... Meanwhile you can walk away with your dignity intact and your head held high....... Good luck buddy
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