Confused1108 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Hello, This is my first post on here so bare with me. I'm a 25 year old female who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 and 1/2 years now. At first I thought he was exactly what I wanted but something came into my life that was completely unexpected. About a year and half ago I started going out for drinks with someone I have known since I was 16. He is 8 years older than me but we always had a connection. He came out an told me that he had he always had feeling for me and wanted pretty much fool around. I told him no because he is married and has a child. But our feelings for each other just escalated and we both came out and said we loved each other last summer without even having sex. So we have had our ups and downs throughout this year. I was willing to leave my boyfriend for him because we both know in our hearts that we belong together...we love each other dearly...but a few weeks ago we finally hooked up and my boyfriend went through my phone and I was discussing it with a friend and he read the text messages he got upset but wants to work it out with me. I have been telling the other one to look into options of divorce so we can figure this out...his easy way out was to get me pregnant (which is insane). Last week he calls my hysterical telling me his wife is pregnant. It crushed me! I thought I was finally getting through and this happend. I pre-warned him about this and it happened. He was begging for me to stay in his life but i can't do that. I feel awful about everything I have done to my boyfriend. It's hard too because I work with this person and have to see him and I try so hard to hate him then I see him and it goes away....it's just very sad to have two people that deeply love each other and not able to be together...so my question is how do I really move on from this...
iriedawta Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It looks like a no-brainer. He's married w/child(s) and your bf wants to work things out with you. Try NC with your friend and try to see if your love can grow again with your boyfriend.
JR2315 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Omg seriously.... Im going to tell you right now that this is not true love. Your seriously taking a man who is cheating with his wife to be with you rather than work it out with your current bf who is willing to forgive you??? The other two partners in this relationship can do so much better than you two. You have what we call on these forums as GIGS read up on it. I think you need to sort out your life and I genuinely feel bad for your current BF. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251986/
Author Confused1108 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I agree with you both..and I want to have nc with him but it's hard and I guess that's what I was looking for in advice. I do love my boyfriend but we are just to different I think..like I said I'm confused and I know this situation is horrible just not sure how to overcome it
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