JR2315 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Almost 3 weeks NC and I have to say im doing a lot better. The only thing that I dont understand is that every time i wake up in the morning it feels as if we just broke up yesterday. I always end up missing everything she does and I just lie on my bed thinking about what she's doing!!! I literally just woke up and it always drives me crazy! So thats why im here venting lol. Anyone else experience this?
TearyEyedPride Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Yep! I think it's pretty natural to go through withdrawals when your lives were so intertwined. You think about them, wonder what they're doing, etc etc, but it does diminish over time. I remember I used to check my phone hoping that maybe he texted? Of course he hadn't, go figure right? But I'd be hurt and it would make that aching in my chest come back. It's over though, and I know that actions speak louder than words, so he either doesn't care... or doesn't have to courage to show me he does. Neither answer is acceptable enough to make me want to reach out to him you know? He broke up with me, so why would I? It's funny though because although I check my phone now for missed messages in general... I don't expect him to have sent me one and it's ok, whereas it used to sting a little. *shrug*
TearyEyedPride Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 And I want to thank you for the suggestions about getting rid of the memorabilia. I had it boxed, but I think I'm strong enough to go ahead and destroy it now. It might be time.
Author JR2315 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 And I want to thank you for the suggestions about getting rid of the memorabilia. I had it boxed, but I think I'm strong enough to go ahead and destroy it now. It might be time. Im glad I could help!! I myself found it slightly entertaining and I definitely felt better afterwards
diggb5 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Its normal... Technically my ex broke up with me last summer but we didn't really stop talking/hooking up all the way til January. I've been through 5 different girls (only one I actually considered datable) and every once in a while it happens that I end up waking up feeling the same way. It takes time for sure. Venting helps too, which is why I joined this forum lol
sun_moon Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Oh yeah it is completely natural to feel that way. Although I am feeling much better, I remember those days and nights, and he still is in my mind EVERYDAY, but eventually the ex will not bet the first and last thought of the day. It gets easier, have patience and continue to distract yourself and coming to LS.
california15 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Hey JR. I feel the exact same, and similarly, I'm almost 3 weeks NC myself - mornings suck so bad right now, so you're not alone. I think partly because I have dreams of him every night, so when I wake up after the dream, to an now-1/2-empty bed in the mornings it's hard and I usually cry for a few mins, then get up and get going. He's not wallowing in his bed (maybe because SHES in it now) and he's living his life - I deserve to live mine too. (as do you) If you need a few mins before you get up, give that to yourself. Moving on takes time, baby steps. But shes not worth your time anymore, so don't let her take alot of it up. Not diagnosing anyone or anything, but I know depression is worst in the mornings for whatever reason. And not saying we all suffer from depression, but since we are all going through a hard time right now, it makes sense mornings are rougher. You're not alone in this! We're not too far into NC and I'm trusting everyone else when they say it gets easier.
Author JR2315 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 ^ it definitely does get easier! I use to always wake up at around 3-5am after going to sleep at around 11pm. But now I find myself consistently waking up at around 7-8am yayy I just hate the fact that I can feel as good as 80% of myself and by the time I wake up im no better than when she first left me even if its only for a few mins. I really sympathize with other people who are suffering through this. I cant wait for the day where I get 13 hours of sleep and look forward for what im going to do lol.
SimplePleasures Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Something that really helps when I start feeling crappy - this may sound dumb- I go to the store and buy myself something fun. Today I bought bubbles! I blew bubbles for about an hour and watched my cat go psychotic. I find the little things sometimes amount to a lot. Completely took my mind off everything.
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