Ayla Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Hi, I have posted previously about this guy (referred to as AA). We dated for a few months and then I ended it with him, as he was not ready for a relationship with anyone and he was unintentionally hurting me. His ex of 10 years and the mother of his daughter cheated on him and is now engaged to the person she cheated on him with. I can completely understand why he is still hurting a year on. I ended it basically saying that I didn't think he was ready for a relationship, but maybe when he was ready we could try to get to know each other again. We did not speak for 3 months or so, and I deleted him from facebook. So moving on - 3 months later - I have moved closer to where he lives, and we have been spending a fair bit of time together. Both with other people and by ourselves. When I moved house he spent 5 hours helping me move (he is also good friends with my brother), then came out for dinner with me, and then took me for coffee. At dinner we saw his faltmate, and his flatmate was trying to get all of us to come back to their place. He saif to my brother and his girlfriend - you can sleep in the spare room. To me and the guy I like - and you two can sleep in AA's room. The conversation carried on a bit more about that. Since then he has texted me or contacted me on facebook every day or second day. A lot of the time there is flirtation in the contact. At dinner he bought up the fact that I deleted him, and I was embarrassed! He knew why I did though. I told him I would add him again...and obviously did.... Last weekend I went out with a friend, the next day he and I were on the phone and he was asking "So did you meet the guy of your dreams?", "are you going out tonight, you might meet the guy of your dreams". Sometimes the messages refer to conversations or things that we did when we were dating (not everyday things, but more personal things). We never had sex, but did fool around a bit when we were dating. When we first started dating he said to my brother "I like your sister, but I am lost and confused, but I will never disrespect her." Tonight we just spent 3 hours together - we went for coffee, then got some takeaway and ate it back at mine, and then hung out for a bit before he headed home (as he has to work tomorrow). We were playing around with his iphone, and he said he will probably drop around tomorrow to do some more on it. A while back (in march) a friend of mine (and somewhat his) had a chat with him, and told him that he "needs to get his **** together". AA said "Yeah I know. We will will see what happens" Friend said "I understand that you have been hurt, but she is a top chick, and you need to get it sorted." AA said "Yeah she is. Time will tell" Friend said "Fair enough. Just don't hurt her." AA said "Don't worry, I won't." We have a lot in common - and I know he likes me as a person and I am pretty sure he still is into me....I am also pretty sure that he knows that I am still into him. I love spending time with him, and it is so easy. We were talking about travelling tonight, and I mentioned that I would be going overseas next year with the whole family. He said that he is basically family and should come too (in a joking manner). I don't know what to do, I think I am doing the right thing, in just being friends with him and not putting pressure on him - and only time will tell. But sometimes, I feel like knocking some sense into him. I am not getting my hopes up, or waiting around for him. Has anyone had an experience with something like this, or have any advice?
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