Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Heh He just wrote me I love you in 15 languages :love::love:
welikeincrowds Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 heh he just wrote me i love you in 15 languages :love::love: Μήπως πηγαίνετε σε Γοογλε Τρανσλάτε να διαβάζετε αυτή την πρόταση;
threebyfate Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Very happy for you! Something telling that no one pointed out: I have loved you for a very long time, I was just afraid to say it first. He has an irrational side to him that's driven by fear so it wasn't that he rationalized "your crazy", he related to it.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Μήπως πηγαίνετε σε Γοογλε Τρανσλάτε να διαβάζετε αυτή την πρόταση; Greek? Yes I did
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Very happy for you! Something telling that no one pointed out: He has an irrational side to him that's driven by fear so it wasn't that he rationalized "your crazy", he related to it. Very perceptive. He actually did say exactly that. That he understands my reactions because he very much relates to the underlying fear - he is just able to hold back more. He has very similar relationship history to me. Including building a wall up in the last few years and not letting anyone in.
threebyfate Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Very perceptive. He actually did say exactly that. That he understands my reactions because he very much relates to the underlying fear - he is just able to hold back more. He has very similar relationship history to me. Including building a wall up in the last few years and not letting anyone in.Ba da bing! This is what made you cautious, the uncertainty since he hid it. The hot/cold behaviour. Gut instincts were bang on in that they saw pattern breaks. And when someone's hiding something, it produces a dissonance in your perception of them. Gut holds true. This is how I roll too and why it worked with H. His signals were steady and consistent. Inconsistency gives me discomfort and causes me to throw up walls and then, eventually walk away if direct discussion doesn't explain or resolve them.
johan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Heh He just wrote me I love you in 15 languages :love::love: Only 15? There a many more languages than that, ES. Are you sure this guy has what it takes to go the distance and do things all the way? Or is it just that he thinks there are only 15 languages that actually matter? He's either a quitter or very prejudiced. MAJOR red flags here!!
iris219 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Only 15? There a many more languages than that, ES. Are you sure this guy has what it takes to go the distance and do things all the way? Or is it just that he thinks there are only 15 languages that actually matter? He's either a quitter or very prejudiced. MAJOR red flags here!! Don't say this! She might believe you. ES, this is great news! Congratulations on the I love you! Don't think about it too much. Just enjoy the relationship and how wonderful it is.
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Only 15? There a many more languages than that, ES. Are you sure this guy has what it takes to go the distance and do things all the way? Or is it just that he thinks there are only 15 languages that actually matter? He's either a quitter or very prejudiced. MAJOR red flags here!! ... I was going to post something similar..hahaha.. heck google has like 100 languages in it.. I guess he just didn't want to spend the time to keep translating it.
SmileFace Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 ... I was going to post something similar..hahaha.. heck google has like 100 languages in it.. I guess he just didn't want to spend the time to keep translating it. Please don't -_- Great news ES, Good luck
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Please don't -_- Great news ES, Good luck ES knows that I'm only kidding...
johan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 I tease people I like. I mock people I don't. I was teasing ES.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 I tease people I like. I mock people I don't. I was teasing ES. Wohoooo johan likes me!!! Don't worry guys, I know art and johan are joking. I DO have a sense of humor
SmileFace Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Wohoooo johan likes me!!! Don't worry guys, I know art and johan are joking. I DO have a sense of humor I really wasn't implying that they weren't joking. Didn't mean for it to come across that way.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Ba da bing! This is what made you cautious, the uncertainty since he hid it. The hot/cold behaviour. Gut instincts were bang on in that they saw pattern breaks. And when someone's hiding something, it produces a dissonance in your perception of them. Gut holds true. This is how I roll too and why it worked with H. His signals were steady and consistent. Inconsistency gives me discomfort and causes me to throw up walls and then, eventually walk away if direct discussion doesn't explain or resolve them. Yep TBF, and usually hot/cold points to something bad. In this instance, the relationship was worth fighting for. We had a major break through one night where we talked till 7am and he told me everything about his past and walls and fear etc. I knew I *was* picking up on something. He has only been hot/hot/hot for a while now and since the open discussion about contact frequency etc - he has more than held up his end of the bargain
BetheButterfly Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 We had talked about "the crazy". He actually explained it like this: "You are terrified of getting hurt. Most people are to some degree. Because of your negative past experiences you are more afraid than most. That's really not crazy - it's just a self-protection mechanism. What I admire about you is your complete sincerity in this. Instead of putting on a mask, you told me how it is. It takes lot of guts to make yourself that vulnerable. It makes me respect you even more" He rationalized the fact that I am crazy! That's love. You are NOT crazy. You are terrified of getting hurt. How your boyfriend explained it is so true. YAY I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! THAT'S SO AWESOME!!! I feel I should say congratulations lol. Anyways, you deserve a wonderful, loving relationship with a wonderful man, and I am so happy that you know now that he loves you, though he has been showing that he loves you with his actions for a while now, right? Always remember that actions speak louder than words, and his caring for you and accepting you and wanting you to be happy shows that he loves you more than just saying those words too. i am SO PROUD OF YOU FOR BEING BRAVE AND TELLING HIM HOW YOU TRULY FEEL, and you see how that gave him the strength to tell you how he truly feels too!!! AWESOME
Rinas Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Aw this is great news! Much more positive! I'm happy for you!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 You are NOT crazy. You are terrified of getting hurt. How your boyfriend explained it is so true. YAY I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! THAT'S SO AWESOME!!! I feel I should say congratulations lol. Anyways, you deserve a wonderful, loving relationship with a wonderful man, and I am so happy that you know now that he loves you, though he has been showing that he loves you with his actions for a while now, right? Always remember that actions speak louder than words, and his caring for you and accepting you and wanting you to be happy shows that he loves you more than just saying those words too. i am SO PROUD OF YOU FOR BEING BRAVE AND TELLING HIM HOW YOU TRULY FEEL, and you see how that gave him the strength to tell you how he truly feels too!!! AWESOME Aw thank you. Yes, his actions were almost saying love - but I really needed the words too. I now keep getting more I love yous. He even posted one publicly on my Facebook wall with the song "You are the one"
Star Gazer Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks guys. I really appreciate all the positive posts. I am pretty happy and he says he is too I've very happy for you, ES! Hopefully now you'll have a lot more confidence and be able to enjoy your relationship!
johan Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 One thing, ES. And serious this time. He can't keep this pace up. Don't get wound up again when he reverts to his normal self. It won't mean that his feelings have changed.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 One thing, ES. And serious this time. He can't keep this pace up. Don't get wound up again when he reverts to his normal self. It won't mean that his feelings have changed. I know this intellectually and hopefully can remind myself of this later.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 One thing, ES. And serious this time. He can't keep this pace up. Don't get wound up again when he reverts to his normal self. It won't mean that his feelings have changed. And YOU hanging in there when he is not behaving quite so ardently is one of the ways you show your commitment to him. Enjoy your good thang!
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