kelsenia Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 im a 15 year old girl, who is very good friends with a 20 year old boy. we have hooked up before and kinda have had a casual thing going on for about a year. we talk on the phone usually at least once a day for multiple hours a day, and text a lot and such. hes told me he likes me and wants to go out with me, but the distance is too far since gas is too expensive to drive 200 miles at least once a week. he lives about 100 miles away from me, and since i cant drive yet and am too scared to tell my parents about it i dont know what to do. recently he started going out with this girl and ever since then hes completely changed. not really even talking to me, and i am good friends with his friends and we havent talked as much either. i dont know how to tell him that i feel this way, what should i do?
turnera Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 im a 15 year old girl, who is very good friends with a 20 year old boy. we have hooked up before and kinda have had a casual thing going on for about a year. we talk on the phone usually at least once a day for multiple hours a day, and text a lot and such. hes told me he likes me and wants to go out with me, but the distance is too far since gas is too expensive to drive 200 miles at least once a week. he lives about 100 miles away from me, and since i cant drive yet and am too scared to tell my parents about it i dont know what to do. recently he started going out with this girl and ever since then hes completely changed. not really even talking to me, and i am good friends with his friends and we havent talked as much either. i dont know how to tell him that i feel this way, what should i do? You won't like my answer, but (1) you're too young to be seeing a 20 year old guy as you're in two different spheres of influence in your lives; (2) he's not going to be into a girl who has to deal with her parents so your relationship is doomed to fail anyway; and (3) he's not into you any more. BTDT - you're just too young to fit into his life. If you were 20 and he was 25, things would be different. I'll tell you what I told my DD20 growing up - have fun, do NOT look for a heavy-duty relationship until you're at least 21-23 because you're not done growing up yet and you will change your mind a dozen times before then (trust me, you will), and just date a bunch of different guys. High school is for when you try on a bunch of different guys to see what kind you are a best fit for. High school is for having fun. If you go into every relationship in high school thinking you're going to fall in love, you'll be together for life...the truth is you'll just be disappointed every single time. High school romances are NOT for life. This is what I warned my DD20 about and, guess what? ALL of her friends who just KNEW they were in love, would be together for life, no one could replace this guy or that guy...every single one of them is no longer together. That's just not what happens in high school. Neither one of you is done growing up yet. You KNOW you're in love for life and...you wake up the next day and can't figure out what you saw in that guy. Or vice versa. Just relax and step back and look for guys to have fun with and let them take you out on dates and NOT expect sex back in return...and you'll have a much happier high school experience.
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