The first morning you wake up and dont think of them

[jacksonBrown]

I'm really looking forward to this day! its been 7 weeks from the break up and 3 days NC so for me 3 days from the break up lol,

I have accepted i'm officially single and wont be going back to that one but i still think of her alot even tho i dont want her back its weird, i think whenever i'm alone i tend to think about it more but every morning when i wake up for the last 7 weeks she has been the first thing on my mind

I look forward going a whole day maybe even a week without thinking about her

Edited June 19, 2011 by jacksonBrown

[D-Lish]

It will happen, I know from experience. I'm 3 months out of a break up, and he's still the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about before bed:(

 

What I find happening is that it's not as painful to think of him as it was a month ago. Same will happen to you.

[jacksonBrown]

how long no contact ?

[Duckduckgoose]

Oh it took me several months before I didn't think of exH anymore before I went to bed and right when I woke up. I was more concerned about snuggling deeper into the covers and going back to sleep.

[RN2011]

I hope so too!!! I am 6 weeks out of a break up and NC for less than a day! We talked almost every day for two weeks after the breakup then went two weeks with NC. Then I caved and text him! I hate that I did, but then I don't because I was able to get a little more answers, say somethings I wanted to say, and have a nice goodbye last night. I haven't followed exactly what everyone has said, because I always end up doing what is in my heart. And it usually back-fires. But I know that I am only hurting myself now.

 

I too am waiting for the day were I don't think about him and everything we had or did 24/7. It is all emotionally exhausting.

[D-Lish]

how long no contact ?

 

3 months no contact- I initiated NC immediately upon breaking up. I knew right away- I saw in his eyes that our break up was final and there would never be a second chance in our future.

 

How are you doing?

[AlisaMarie]

I hate the mornings when you open your eyes hoping your just had a really long break up dream. Dang, I am only on day 4 nc but this is our fourth break up... second big break up (moved out). Because of the terrible relationship pattern I had with him, I am still holding my breath not ready to face the facts that he can't do this to me anymore!

[thelovingkind]

Mornings are horrible. You'd think that our minds would put all their effort into keeping us perky in the morning and into the early afternoon, then the energy would flag and we'd start thinking about our exes when the sun goes down. But no. Every day without fail, the moment you open your eyes it's just there, like a weight through your body, the horrible feeling of knowing that they're gone and it's over.

[jacksonBrown]

3 months no contact- I initiated NC immediately upon breaking up. I knew right away- I saw in his eyes that our break up was final and there would never be a second chance in our future.

 

How are you doing?

 

i'm doin better its almost 2 week NC i saw her out and about one day and that set me back for the rest of the day but i feel better with everyday that passes the more NC the better i've been dating again except the date didn't work too well i wasn't really attracted to her so it made me think of my ex alot when i got home ahhh well tomoro is another day, i'm moving house tomoro so wont have to bump into ex at all anymore

[radiodarcy]

mornings for me have actually been pretty good. it's the evenings that weigh heavily. i guess because i'm tired at the end of the day and when that happens, thoughts of him tend to enter my mind. and they're not pleasant ones either - - they usually have to do with who he's dating and all they fun they're probably having. last night i was reading a book about dating rituals in the 1920's - - and even though we're certainly not in that era anymore, the more i read the more i picture my ex going out and doing things with other women. it annoyed me to the point where i threw the book across the room. *sigh*. however, i started reading a book about a totally different topic and cheered up almost immediately

 

that in itself is an improvement. four months ago when i started NC i would have not only thrown the book across the room but turned out the light and stayed in bed the rest of the evening; crying and thinking about him.

[Bito]

Today was that day for me. Slowly but surely I am returning to my normal mind set. obviously she still enters my mind all the time but as each day passes it hurts less and less. Accepting that it is over and moving on is the key!

[shortee143]

good for u jacksonbrown I find my mornings suck, 3 months out. He is always the first thing I think of, and I cant wait til that stops (even though I THINK it wont haha). I wish I could have gone NC since the day we split. I didnt see him for the first month, but being in the same social circle..well that made contact pretty inevitable...Now he is seeing someone else, so now I think of him...and him wit her haha, and its inevitable that I get to see them together, oh life. But glad to hear your doing well- keep on moving on

[Net Jedi]

Great attitude jacksonbrown! Even though I don't dream about my ex anymore as soon as I wake up she is the first thing that I think about. Good luck in the new house and good luck with your growth out of this situation.

[melenkurion]

It does stop eventually. I am not even sure when it did stop, but he's no longer then first thing on my mind in the mornings any more. I still think about him way more than I wish I did, but he's not the main thing I think about any more.