Mark1 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Hello all. I dont think I have ever been asked out before, so I have no idea if this is a date or not. There was a girl in my class last semester. Very pretty. We didn't talk much because we sat on other sides of the room. She was also quiet in the class setting, but when she spoke she seemed nice. I hadn't seen her since December, until a Friday night in early May at the bar. I don't drink and she knows that, even so, when she saw me she came running over, "Maaaarkk!!" I got a kiss, and we held each others hands while talking. She wasn't very drunk, and her friend was totally fine. Before she leaves she gives me her number and tells me to call her Saturday night to go out to another bar together. Just to make sure, I say, "You're gonna remember giving me your number, right?" And she looks me straight in the eye and says, "Yes. i'm not like that, I'll remember." Even so, I'm like, "okay whatever, she's drunk, she probably doesn't really mean it." But I text her Saturday anyways to see if she wants to go. She replies, "Hey I have plans tonight, but what are you doing for dinner?" So from there we've been texting. She's back home for the summer, but we are still trying to get a time for dinner. Very excited, but I find a few things interesting. -Girl asking a guy to dinner? -We hardly ever talked during class and now she wants to hang? So, a good situation! But I thought it was interesting nonetheless. Is it a date? I've also been told I will find out within 15 minutes whether it is a date or not, based on her behavior. All thoughts are appreciated!
USMCHokie Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Yes, it is a date. Have fun! But one thing I must add...CALL her...texting to ask someone out is lame.
Author Mark1 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 If its a date, thats awesome. Cause she is 8927394823x better looking than I am.
Author Mark1 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 I'm thinking (hoping) it was the alcohol that allowed her to have the courage to come talk to me, since we hardly talked in class.
callingyouuu Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I've also been told I will find out within 15 minutes whether it is a date or not, based on her behavior. I don't think this is necessarily true. People walk into situations like this all the time and leave at the very end just as equally confused. That said, I think you've got a date. Just have fun and stop overthinking! She sounds nice.
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 How many times do you need to bump this? Anyway, I think it's a date but why don't you ask her when you see her? Girls are funny creatures.
Disillusioned Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I have no idea if this is a date or not. All thoughts are appreciated! If it's brown and wrinkled and it tastes sweet and came from a palm tree, then it's definitely a date. http://www.agriculturesource.com/p-iran-dates-fruit-export-380414.html
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 (edited) 40 views and 1 reply? Yeah.. it is a date..hopefully it will lead to another and something to think about with the whole views thing is that anybody without an account can view your post but they cannot post. Only people who have an account can post. Edited June 19, 2011 by Art_Critic
runner Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 it doesn't matter; the point is to enjoy each other's company. the last thing you want is to be anxious about it and build all sorts of expectations in your head. the anxiety will bleed through your pores and it will turn her off. have fun.
ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 It's a date. But don't get worked up and over-excited that it's a date. And the fact that's she pretty - ignore that too (to a degree). Things to do: 1) Don't think of it as a "date" - all "dates" are is two people just hanging out. Of course if it goes well, you should at least be kissing at the end of it 2) Don't her being "pretty" cloud you're judgement, let her treat you like crap, etc. Not that she would do any of those things - but if you go into it all happy go lucky, sometimes things get clouded up. 3) That being said, just be yourself. Nothing more, nothing less. 4) Only thing that is weird to me is that she asked you out the next night....and then told you she had plans? 5) Dude - call. If she asks you out, you gotta call. Now, you could text to be like "hey what's up? are you busy?" so you don't have to call, get voicemail, wait around, etc. But to ask her out, gotta call
Author Mark1 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Can I kiss her on the cheek, or does that mean friends?
ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Depends if you do it right (i wouldn't) There's a friend kiss on the cheek and then "this was fun! see you later!" If it's sensual enough, then go in for more ??? ----- Personally I just go for it. If the situation calls for it, you can even ask "can I kiss you?" (again, depends, and it has to feel like thats what she wants you to do, etc) Kiss her like a man bro!
Author Mark1 Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I'm starting to think this is in fact a date and I am not nervous at all, very excited!
creighton0123 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Yes, it's a date. Stop texting, pick up the phone and call the girl. Texting is for tools.
Author Mark1 Posted July 3, 2011 Author Posted July 3, 2011 should i text her wishing her a happy fourth? is that weird?
Cee Posted July 3, 2011 Posted July 3, 2011 Weren't you supposed to have a date? Your original post is 2 weeks old.
Author Mark1 Posted July 12, 2011 Author Posted July 12, 2011 She hasn't been in town yet (lives 2 hours away, works) but since the original post we've texted back and forth. I initiated the texts, but she's reciprocated well, hopefully this keeps going until we can meet (probably next month).
Author Mark1 Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 We have continued to keep in touch, and when I said, "hope to see you in about a month?" she said "yes! so soon"
refurb Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 I was just going to reply to the original post that it's not a date. The fact that it's two months later and you still haven't gotten together confirms it. Based on the OP's description of the event, she just seemed like she had seen someone she liked and decided to that she wanted to hang out with him. If she was really interested in going on a "date", it would have happened by now. Now that's not to say she isn't attracted to the OP or wouldn't be interested in dating him, it's just that her interest is pretty minimal at this point. RF
spiderowl Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 She's shown interest in you, despite not having chatted in class much. She's given you her number. She's encouraged you to contact her and to arrange something (not nothing). I don't know about date, as you are the one who needs to settle the time and place with her, but she does want to get to know you better. When you contacted her she was busy, but she was encouraging about finding an alternative time. All the signs are good that she wants to spend some time alone with you. Make a date with her and then see how it goes. If she gives you encouraging signs, then be sure to respond positively and see how it all flourishes from then onwards.
xoxoDaniellexoxo Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Yes it is a date!! I honestly have asked a guy out who was in my class too! It's hard when you are in a class to approach someone cause you aren't sure if you will have anything to talk about other than the class, ESPECIALLY if it is a Gen-Ed cause most people are only in the classes cause they have to be!! If she is asking you to dinner then she definitly likes you! If it was just a friend I'd ask to hang out in a group!! GOOD LUCK!!
Author Mark1 Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 Its odd to me, that she could have ended contact a long time ago by simply not texting me back.
refurb Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 Its odd to me, that she could have ended contact a long time ago by simply not texting me back. Oh lord. I have plenty of friends who are girls who I do that stuff with. They are not interested in the least in dating me. She probably likes texting, chatting and hanging out with you. But that doesn't tell you anything about how she views you romantically. The only way you'll know if she's interested in a relationship is to make it clear that's what your looking for from her. Once you make it clear, she'll be clear with you (usually). If this girl was interested in dating you, she would have made time to go on a date with you in the past couple of months. She's not THAT busy. RF
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