New Boyfriend tends to whine

[RoseBloodSweet]

I got out of a four year long term relationship about ten months ago, and I've been talking to this guy for almost two months and have started dating him for 2 weeks. Everything seems to be going fine, except the fact that when things don't happen when he wants them to and it's out of everyone's control, he'll whine and make me feel guilty. Now, I don't think he does it.. to purposely.. hurt me, since he said so himself, but he admits how much it bothers him. Like for an example. I get to see him once a week, and something came up a few weeks ago, I didn't feel very well, so I called off the date a few hours before I showed up. He was completely understanding. I was happy, we got together a few days afterwards and we over looked it. Today was another one of our dates, but I called it off, because I woke up to a bloody mess (literately) and had no pads, nor any money to buy some, cause all I had was bus fare for the rest of the month to see him. I have pcos, and my periods sometimes go for a few days and come back..tricking me. I texted him right away and told him my problem, he offered to buy me pads when I got there. I told him that I didn't mind using toilet paper, and I wouldn't mind him buying me some if he wanted, but, because of how heavy the flow was I didn't think I'd make it before there would be an accident. It takes me two hours to get there and I take two buses. He was, again, completely understanding. We started talking a little, but then I fell asleep. Later today (this all happened today) we started talking and he told me how down he was about me not being able to show, and I told him how bad I felt, and that if he didn't have any plans tomorrow I'd be more than happy to go anyway, because at this point being a little embarrassed over feeling so guilty about missing a date with him didn't seem so bad. Even though he has no plans for tomorrow he told me that he rather just wait till the nature of the problem was over and if we did try tomorrow and I couldn't show it would just worsen his mood. He also ..during the entire hour we chatted didn't seem himself, very irritated and apologized, but there was nothing I could do to make him feel any better. The period seems to have stopped, of course, I don't know how long before it'll come back, but I was a little sad to hear that he didn't want to try again right away since he apparently wanted to see me very bad but I don't know what do you think? Was he trying to make me feel even more guilty deliberately or did he have a very good excuse for being that down? Also. There was a time when me, and my best friend (who is also my late ex, but we're still very good friends) all hung out and they seemed to really like each other. Jason (my boyfriend) said he wanted to be friends with my ex, and I was happy to hear it, but whenever my friend tries to start a conversation, Jason, will put as little as he possibly can, and for being such a big talker, that's not like him at all. Of course, he says that texting isn't his favorite way of communicating, and also told me that he doesn't feel obligated to talk to him, but he does want to be his friend. I just don't get it. After 3 attempts of trying to talk with him over the pass two weeks with no change in behavior, Jessy (my friend aka EX) questioned him about really wanting to talk to him. Jason, keeps saying he wants to, but doesn't show that he does, and says he doesn't feel "obligated" to talk to him as much as he does me, and to be his friend, but he wants to. After the small arguement him and my friend had, that night he whined about how he didn't feel like he had to talk to him as much ..and that he shouldn't have to put much dedication into getting to know my friends/family as he does me, but I never expected that, nor did anyone else who's tried talking to him. Is that just an excuse? I mean, I told him, I'd really like it if he was interested in hanging out with my friends once in a great while, but if he really didn't want to be friends with anyone on my side.. to just say so. He still says he wants to, but doesn't feel he has to, which is obvious, but... if he really wants to.. wouldn't he show it more?

Edited June 18, 2011 by RoseBloodSweet
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