AmericanHoney Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I gave this guy my digits after we met online and we talked but I am not feeling it at all. He is into fishing and outdoorsy stuff ( I am more indoors) he hates fast food or any chain restaurants ( I love them) I know I haven't met him but I am not feeling this guy at all. How do I let him down gently? I hate being a mean person but I am just not feeling it.
smudge21 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Repeat exactly what you've said here to him. You've been honest with a bunch of strangers, so why can't you be honest to another stranger (you haven't met him yet). Yeah, he might be hurt, but deep down we all appreciate honesty. Oh and fast food/chain restaurantes? Seriously, do some research into what goes into them and you may change your thinking a bit.
BCCA Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Be direct and honest. 'Hey, you seem like a nice guy, but I just don't think you're the right guy for me'. Stop worrying about being mean, that's just going to make you beat around the bush and be indirect, which will lead to confusion on his part. This is the one thing about women guys hate most, you won't just say what's on your mind. You're not a terrible person because you aren't interested, just make sure he clearly understands you're not into him, and leave it at that.
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 I know. I don't care about the food persay but I hate snobby people that think oh I hate this place and that place blah,blah,blah. I just like going there for a drink maybe an appetizer and hanging out. I hate people who are snobby and say ewww I hate those places. I hate Mcdonald's but I still go there if my friends like it. Guess I need to be honest with him:cool:
Imajerk17 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Send him an email thanking him for talking to you, but that you don't feel that you and he have enough in common, and that you don't want to waste his time.
smudge21 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Chill, I was only having a laugh about the fast food thing. If people want to eat mechanically recovered meat that's up to them. Just be honest and nice about it. It's not like you've been dating for the past 10 years!
RoseBloodSweet Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I feel like everyone pretty much answered this one, but Let's face it. You aren't going to find someone who is 100% in common with you. There's always going to be differences, and maybe these are just some of them. If you have absolutely nothing in common, and it's just affecting your feelings and the communication between you, then I can understand, but honestly, you should give people more of a chance, rather than make such a rational decision after just one phone call and several emails. I mean, think about it. There had to be some reason why you gave this guy your number, but if fast food and staying indoors is really all that important to you, then I can see why you wanna toss this one. *hugs* If it were me, depending on the person, if we weren't compatible, you never know, could be a great friend!
PhillyDude Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I gave this guy my digits after we met online and we talked but I am not feeling it at all. He is into fishing and outdoorsy stuff ( I am more indoors) he hates fast food or any chain restaurants ( I love them) I know I haven't met him but I am not feeling this guy at all. How do I let him down gently? I hate being a mean person but I am just not feeling it. You just stop calling, why is this so hard if you never met?
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