neal121 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 So I met this girl a few days ago and since then we have hung out 3 times, all positive. Yet this weekend she left town to go camping. She texted me today and later on during the convo I said something like "I bet you wouldn't mind being here with me for a little bit." Or something like that. She replied, "no. I am having a blast up here." Am I wrong to say that what she said was not the right thing to say? She pretty much just sent me away with that message. I replied with... "you know, its best to at least lie and keep your significant other happy. What you just said wasn't very pleasing." She replied with (direct from txt convo). " u know what *my name*. i dont like ur aditude. and i wud rather someone be honest with me then lie about it." Now wtf do I do?
robdrm32 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 so are you her significant other? if not that wasn't the best approach, since she doesn't owe you any sort of attention. I dunno man i would chill with that and let it go. maybe even let her come to you because that was a little much on your part.
USMCHokie Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 So I met this girl a few days ago... I replied with... "you know, its best to at least lie and keep your significant other happy. What you just said wasn't very pleasing." Seriously...? You've known her for a few days and tell her you're her sig o...? Not gonna lie, it's kinda creepy... Yet this weekend she left town to go camping. She texted me today and later on during the convo I said something like "I bet you wouldn't mind being here with me for a little bit." Or something like that. Your attempt to be cute failed miserably. A text like that is much too presumptuous so early in the game, friend. She replied, "no. I am having a blast up here." An appropriate response: "Awesome! Well I'll talk to you when you get back." Am I wrong to say that what she said was not the right thing to say? She pretty much just sent me away with that message. Yes, you are wrong. Now wtf do I do? At the very least, don't text her again for the rest of the camping trip. If she contacts you, go from there and try to recover (i.e., don't bring this sh*t up). If you don't hear from her, then move along. Key takeaway from this experience: You must keep your correspondence light and casual during the early stages of dating. Your texts reek of desperation and make you appear incredibly needy...I mean seriously, you're not in a relationship, are you...? You need to let her live her own life too...
loveiscontagious Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Way too presumptuous, way too cocky, way too demanding. Also, you have no right to dictate to her what is the "right" thing to say to anyone. I would not be interested in a guy after something like that happened after only a few meetings.
BCCA Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 What gave you the idea you were her signifigant other? You hung out for a few days, and now all of a sudden you're acting like her world revolved around you. When she brought you back down to Earth, you acted like a crybaby about it. No woman will ever respond positively during an exchange like that. You acted desperate and creepy, and she was smart to tell you to kick rocks. This one is a goner, live and learn...
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