LK30 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Hey all, I chatted to a girl on a dating site the other night, and got on well. I braved it and gave her my number. She texted me later that night saying she was brave too so wanted to reply. The next morning (Thurs) she texted me first thing in morning saying 'thank you for the chat, you seem a really nice guy.' She then texted me after work the same day to say she had finished and was on her way home, how was my day etc. We exchanged quite a few texts. Yesterday (Fri) I didn't hear from her so I texted her about 10pm. She replied and said 'I'm in town and a bit intoxicated.' I left it there as I didn't want to get involved with possible drunken texts. As for today (Sat) I've not heard anything at all, so I've not messaged her at all as I thought I'd wait until she sent me a message and I don't want to come across desperate. I hope I'm taking the right approach, and I know these things happen but I'm confused as it seemed promising from what her texts said and now it seems to have fizzled out. She seemed pretty and nice, so I'm a bit gutted really as that's it I reckon! Help!
USMCHokie Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I hope I'm taking the right approach... You are most definitely not. The only thing you should do when you first get her phone number is call her and ask her out on a date. None of this chickensh*t texting nonsense. ...now it seems to have fizzled out. I'm trying to put my finger on what exactly "it" is...and I think it's referring to nothing...you need to call this girl and ask her out on a date. Stop the texting of random nothings.
oaks Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 As for today (Sat) I've not heard anything at all, so I've not messaged her at all as I thought I'd wait until she sent me a message and I don't want to come across desperate. Instead of waiting, call her and come across as interested.
Author LK30 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Such a good response, thank you for this! I've held back as I was enjoying the 'buzz' of knowing that things would be building up, and then to ask her out with the risk of her saying 'er, I'm a bit busy over next few weeks' would kill my little buzz I am enjoying which is so rare. I've been kicked while I'm down quite a few times the last couple of years, so I almost fear rejection now and will avoid it at all costs!!
Finch Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I have to second what others have already posted - there is no "it" as of yet to have fizzled out! You aren't even dating this girl yet, so feeling bad because she hasn't texted you in a day is pointless. We all get kicked down from time to time - it is the way of the dating world. Not fun, but it happens. If you like her and want this to be anything more than friendly texting and chatting you need to meet in person and have some face to face time. Ask her out. You have to risk rejection because right now you have nothing. Best of luck!
Author LK30 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Cheers guys! I will have to let you know how it goes. At first I was quite impressed with myself as I asked for a girl's number very early on and usually I send e-mails etc for first couple of weeks as I get the impression girls like to build a little bit of trust before meeting as blokes have a reputation on websites as being dodgy and after one thing. He who dares wins...apparently!!
USMCHokie Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Such a good response, thank you for this! I've held back as I was enjoying the 'buzz' of knowing that things would be building up, and then to ask her out with the risk of her saying 'er, I'm a bit busy over next few weeks' would kill my little buzz I am enjoying which is so rare. Trust me, the "buzz" of meeting a girl in person, clicking, and continuing to see the girl is so much better than what you're experiencing with these little texts of yours... I've been kicked while I'm down quite a few times the last couple of years, so I almost fear rejection now and will avoid it at all costs!! Rejection is not something to fear, but something to overcome and just forget about. Rejection should be the last thing on your mind when you ask a girl out.
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