loudmusic Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I've been freinds with this girl for a few months and we have some mutual freinds, the two of us have always flirted with each other and enjoyed hanging out. I've never gotten up the nerve to actually let her know I like her. The last couple times I hung out with her, I think I acted really weird because all I was thinking about was how to tell her I like her. I started getting the feeling that she's losing intrest in me because I'm not making any sort of move. Then last night I called to see if she wanted to come out to the bar with a couple freinds and me. She was hanging out with some other guy, she called her "freind" and that she was going to a diffrent bar with him. Last night one of our mutual freinds told me that she told him she has a crush on me, that was about 3 weeks ago. It sucks if she's moved on but I understand it's my own fault. Part of me just wants to tell her I like her, even if nothing come out of it. I want to either be with her or just get over her and move on. I've never been this neurotic about a girl, it's all I'm thinking about.
jeremy711 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Hey, I have many problems in this area, and I wish I can take my own advice as I think im better at giving it rather than doing it. But I think you should just tell her. You have more history than this other guy. And you know for a fact she likes you. I really dont see the problem and why you hesitated. If you missed your chance than so be it......you know for next time. But atleast this is the first step in the right direction. Either getting over her or going out with her. Man up, do it I have faith......i hope you get her!!!
smudge21 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 This is a tough one - letting a girl know how you feel but without wanting to ruin the friendship and worse or all, push her away. Sadly every situation is different but one way I did it in the past was to bring it up in a casual way. Mid conversation, when you're both together having a laugh, just somehow work the line "... you already know how I feel about you..." into things. If she does or doesn't, it will break the ice, may even lead her to ask how you feel (which in my book is what you want to happen). Just aim to get her out, the two of you. Just remember, when it comes to the dating game, someone forgot to include the instructions so you have to make it up as you go. Same applies to her too. The fact she's told someone else rather then you how she feels indicates she may feel exactly the same way you do. Women get nervous too you know.
Author loudmusic Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks, I think I'm going to call her tommorow to see if she can meet up with me so I can talk to her about all of this, I at least want to clarify things with her. I just don't know if I should tell her over the phone if she can't meet me in person.
smudge21 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 In person is better, but keep it casual. Don't make the day just about you telling her how you feel. It may be too much pressure for her, especially when you don't know for definite how she truly feels.
Exit Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Just put it out there man! It's been a while since I've needed to approach a girl, but man... a few years ago, it was funny, I'm such a shy antisocial person, but I got to the point where I just didn't fear rejection from girls, I found it funny to just be so forthright about it that it would shock the hell out of them and either get a good reaction or make it clear that they weren't interested, either way it's a win win. I think I developed this attitude back in high school when I heard a girl liked me, instead of approaching the situation with caution I just walked up to her when she was waiting for the bus and put my arm around her and was like "so when are we going out?". And ever since then I just found it funny to be extremely bold about it. Go for it!
jeremy711 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Definately in person man...... Once you talk it over if she is your friend she should be understanding.
Author loudmusic Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 I talked to her, and she said shes going to try dating this other guy. She basically told me she didn't want to wait for me to make a move any longer. It's my fault,I understand this and it stings a lot, but I gotta learn from this. I think the fact that we've been freinds for a while and we hang out with a few of the same people made it difficult for me to let her know I like her more then freinds. I feel really crappy right now but need to try and take my mind off of it.
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