Memphis Raines Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 For those of you who are recommending an annulment... know that an anulment is not easy to get and very few marriages would actually qualify... Where I am these are the grounds for annulment... 1) There was a legal defect in the wedding ceremony (i.e...not married by someone has the legal ability to marry) 2) Capacity - The marriage contract was entered into with someone who is not old enough to enter into a contract (under 18) or at least one of the parties to the contract entered into it under duress. This also includes - shotgun weddings, intoxication, bigamy, mantally infirm parties, incest, fraud. 3) Non Consumation - Where it is not possible to consumate the marriage...it doesnt include a choice to not have sex. Not too many marriages fit this bill....Now I realize the laws tend to be slightly different from state to state, province to province...but family law tends to stay somewhat similar amoungst the secular countries of the civilized world. I highly, highly, highly doubt he could have it annulled. regardless, he should try.
StoneCold Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 regardless, he should try. No point; he'd just be wasting his time.....just go for what we know will work...divorce. I'm not a lawyer but I'd bet my last dollar that that is what his lwyer would say too (given a choice between the two)
Woggle Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 This crap is why real victims have such a hard time in court. Women like this are all smug because they think they are getting over on a man but they actually hurt other women.
Author speedster Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 she's out of the house, papers filed. i'm just waiting for the day.. yes i know she set me up. i knew it when i found the unlocked door, but had no idea about the surprise in the driveway. i know it took planning and a total disregard for my well-being. she's out, not coming back. no second chances because there is no telling when (and it is WHEN) she would do something like that again. it's not comfortable having lights and guns pointed at you in your own driveway. the police did their job, nothing against them at all. once they realized what happened i was free to go. a few even shook my hand and wished me luck.
StoneCold Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 she's out of the house, papers filed. i'm just waiting for the day.. yes i know she set me up. i knew it when i found the unlocked door, but had no idea about the surprise in the driveway. i know it took planning and a total disregard for my well-being. she's out, not coming back. no second chances because there is no telling when (and it is WHEN) she would do something like that again. it's not comfortable having lights and guns pointed at you in your own driveway. the police did their job, nothing against them at all. once they realized what happened i was free to go. a few even shook my hand and wished me luck. I bet if 5 years ago someone were to say to you that your wife will one day end up making a false call to the cops and have you at gun point and in cuffs on your own driveway for all your neighbors to see you say they were nuts lol. Stuff like this makes me want to swear off relationships and just deal with prostitutes when I get an urge for sex.....pay and go...thats it, thats all LMAO
Tech_E Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Stuff like this makes me want to swear off relationships and just deal with prostitutes when I get an urge for sex.....pay and go...thats it, thats all LMAO Awesome.... HA.
Memphis Raines Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 No point; he'd just be wasting his time.....just go for what we know will work...divorce. I'm not a lawyer but I'd bet my last dollar that that is what his lwyer would say too (given a choice between the two) well it does mention fraud. he married her with the understanding of forsaking all others. he married her thinking she was a decent, faithful person. I think someone can make a case for fraud here.
Memphis Raines Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 No point; he'd just be wasting his time.....just go for what we know will work...divorce. I'm not a lawyer but I'd bet my last dollar that that is what his lwyer would say too (given a choice between the two) Also, I think the criteria for annulment is a little more broad than what you put forth earlier. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annulment I'm sure it changes from state to state, but a judge can determine if annulment is appropriate. If a couple hasn't been married long, and there are really no marital assets of any significance to split, then a judge can rule. in the link above, one reason for annulment is "The couple committed adultery", however I'm sure there is a timeframe involved, although I didn't see one on the site. another reason would be that one partner had been deceived. well he certainly can say he had been deceived into thinking she is a faithful woman. Here is another, "Failure to adhere to requirements of canon law for marriages, such as clandestinity". In other words, someone broke the vows. So based on broader definitions of what justifies an annulment, I think he can get one pretty easy. or simply have a judge give a decree of divorce with each of them leaving with what they came with seeing as how, unless they both won the lottery in the short time they were married, there isn't much they accumulated to be split. And if there is some small things, they can work that out amongst themselves. not much to fight over for a full blown divorce here.
Memphis Raines Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 This crap is why real victims have such a hard time in court. Women like this are all smug because they think they are getting over on a man but they actually hurt other women. not to worry, they haven't been married long. Like I said above, unless they won the lottery, she isn't going to come away with anything substantial unless they purchased property, or something like that, AND paid it in full with no mortgage.
Dionysus Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) well, whoever said she was going to make my life hell underestimated her. before moving out we had an argument, not a major one, and it was early in the evening. i ended it by saying i was going upstairs to watch tv, and she needed some rest too. she said 'this isn't over'... i shrugged it off. about 1am i get a text- 'passion' was all. i replied 'go to bed' and i fell back to sleep. about an hour later i get a text 'help'... i texted back '?'.. nothing. i waited a few more minutes... then went downstairs to look for her. back door was unlocked. she and her dog were missing. i went outside and there was the dog, no woman. i went back upstairs, got a flashlight, turned on the pool lights and went back down. got the dog, no one else around, except i heard voices coming from up front. i went back inside with the dog. i walked out the front door and am blinded by lights mounted on large guns and police yelling at me. i did as ordered, walking backward up the driveway in nothing but boxers. i am tightly cuffed and put in the back of a squad car, read my rights and am told my stbx called 911 and told them i threatened to kill her, was on drugs, and armed. i calmly explained that i was in bed and was searching for her after i received the text asking for help. they asked to search the place, i said not without a warrant. they asked me a dozen times to repeat what happened. i did without a hitch. then they said she was acting confused and called an ambulance for her. well, after 2hrs in a sweltering car, cuffed like a maniac, they finally opened the door and let me go, as the ambulance was taking her to a hospital. the officers apologized to me, said i was obviously not a threat, was not on drugs or agitated, so they let me go. she no longer lives here- actually she's 300 miles away. i hope she stays there. True story huh? You could probably use that against her. The "crazy b*tch" angle always helps. I hope you planned ahead speed. You need to note everything that she is doing. Edited July 27, 2011 by Dionysus
Oceanblue47 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 My wife of 28 years had an affair about 12+ months ago, when I found out and approached her, she had no remorse, no contrition and it was all my fault, we decided that we would rebuild our relationship and if anything it would make it stronger, only earlier this week, i discovered she was having another affair, the traits your wife is demonstrating are the same I dare say this: She has alternative intentions, and is interested only in herself, one thing I have learned from this terrible episode in my life is a common denominator: Selfishness. It matters not how strait the gate How charged with punishment the scroll I am the master of my fate I am the Captain of my soul She has the hallmarks in my opinion Sorry, but it happens, and it happens to the best of us. Do yourself a favour, protect your asset's and move forward
Author speedster Posted July 30, 2011 Author Posted July 30, 2011 True story huh? You could probably use that against her. The "crazy b*tch" angle always helps. I hope you planned ahead speed. You need to note everything that she is doing. unfortunately, yes, it's true. i have pages of notes on her behavior, printed email, contact lists, phone records, credit card statements, receipts from bars, shoe stores, computer search history, etc.
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