Don't really think I want to be with boyfriend, don't want to break up either...?

[Daaanz]

Okay me and my bf have been together for about 2

years, we broke up for a month and got back together about a week ago. For the

last month of our relationship I had this feeling where I knew our relationship

wasn't healthy but I didn't want to leave him because obviously I loved him and

secondly because I felt like I wouldn't be able to cope without him. However,

eventually we broke up, I was completely fine without him. However I missed him

a lot, and vowed he would eventually come back as I knew all we needed was a bit

of space. I was right, he did come back, after a month of chasing other girls

and stuff, he came back to me telling me he missed me and wanted me back. After

a while of him chasing me around, begging me, I took him back.

We've been

back together for about a week now and to begin with things were great, he was

lovely. But now, the niceness he was trying to win me back with has faded and

things seem to have gone back to how they were before... Not in a bad way, he's

still lovely and caring, but like less of a honeymoon period I guess.

Mostly,

I think I'm worried more than anything that he is just going to get up and leave

me again, hes reassured me he won't, but as things are slipping back into how

they used to be and he'll remember the reason he left in the first

place.

Does anyone have any advice for me? I've spoken to him about a few

things but I feel this is something I need to deal with by myself as it's my own

worries and fears... He knows how I feel and he's tried to reassure me

[Eddie Edirol]

You already know what you have to do, you just dont want to do it.

 

This relationship has run its course, as you both have gotten tired of each other. So you break it off, except this time, you tell him its for good, you dont take his calls, no matter how much you miss him.

 

How many more times will you break up and get back together before you realize you dont want him anymore, that could take years!

[thatone]

you don't get a 365 day a year honeymoon. no one does.

 

he doesn't change in a month, no one does that either.

[Daaanz]

It was never him, he never really needed to change, it was just the way our relationship got, it was too much.

[thatone]

too much how?

 

if there's nothing wrong with him you are just going to have to get over it and come back to reality. the movie love affair does not exist. for every two hour chick flick they cut 10 hours of footage where those movie stars were ugly, and stuttering, and sneezing, and tripping over a wire, and saying the wrong things, etc. all you have to decide is whether you want to stay with him as he is or not.

 

you vowed that he would come back? this makes no sense.

 

can't tell you what we think if you don't tell us what the problem is.

Edited June 18, 2011 by thatone