jacksonBrown Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 i held onto false hope for 7 weeks that my ex would come back to me well after me obviously not getting it threw my head that it was ova, she finally told me not to contact her anymore.. And it hit home, it really is over i was just to dumb to realise and chased her to the point she had to say it, of course it hurt at first but i do feel better now not holding onto false hope anymore. i feel like i can move on with my life now and start getting my life in order, i do wish i had gone NC from day 1 i know i would be in a much better head space than i am now, i'm obviously not over her because i have been counting the days of NC and i think i will for a long time i'm sure as the days and weeks go by of NC it will get better and better but at the moment i still think of her alot i just wanna fast forward time 2 months or so i am 100% committed to NC now i will never contact her again even if she was to contact me now i would ignore ( evan tho i know she wont) all the best for anyone coping with NC
Fufu Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 It's always a good first sign to accept the break up and it's completely natural if you still think of your ex when you are in the midst of NC. For me, I had enough of the trauma my ex had given me and I see this as a blessing that this relationship is over now than to be strung along for x number of years. And because of this, I see my future is so much brighter.
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 how long did it take you to get to this stage how long since the break up?
giuliano-3 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 how long did it take you to get to this stage how long since the break up? pretty much one year. 3 months of NC, 6 months of allowing myself to be strung along, 3 months of LC. Now at about 2 weeks of fresh NC. There are many phases of acceptance/denial I went through. If you still think about her often, prepare yourself for possible lapses. Fasten your seat belt, the ride might get bumpy again.
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 pretty much one year. 3 months of NC, 6 months of allowing myself to be strung along, 3 months of LC. Now at about 2 weeks of fresh NC. There are many phases of acceptance/denial I went through. If you still think about her often, prepare yourself for possible lapses. Fasten your seat belt, the ride might get bumpy again. i'm currently on day 3 of NC but have no intentions contact her nor do i want to this realationship is truelly over but yes i do still think of her and will be counting down the days of NC for a while, i'm guessing after a few months of NC she will contact me to see if i'm still on the hook that will be the real test to see if i can ignore her or not i dont wanna be strung along
Fufu Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 how long did it take you to get to this stage how long since the break up? 7 months
betterdeal Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You know, I can't actually remember how long ago we last interacted. I could work it out, but somehow, I quite like the selective dissonance of not knowing. More than 3 months, that's for sure. I feel a year - all the seasons - needs to pass before I can have changed and grown any significant amount. I don't fear her any more. Well, no where near as much as I did. I have other stuff that's much more pressing and important now, such as cleaning my house and creating a treatment room in the spare room now that my house mates have moved out. I also have an application form to complete for an access to higher education course. Tomorrow I have a buddy coming over and we've had words recently - me standing up to his slovenly ways - so that's going to be interesting. Sure, I think about her sometimes. It's natural. But it's subsiding, gently now. I am many times better than I was this time last year. She was but a part of my life experience. I'm much more "me" now. My mind, body and soul are in much better shape than they have been for years. I'd like to have sex, affection, cuddles, intimacy with someone, but it's not the be all and end all of my life. I'm just going to participate in things that make me happy and not in things that make me unhappy. That, my friends, is what what we do. The meaning of life is life.
Fufu Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 NC the whole time? I did break NC like 2 or 3 times in between
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