Helloween Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I mean I just dnt know....I dnt mean to sound desperate but ****! It would be nice to have a partner. The only time I had a intercounter with a girl was my date for prom night but even then that went terrible. I barely ran any "game" on her and thats if I even had any. any guys gone through this?
USMCHokie Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Yes. I went on my first real date when I was 23 and had my first relationship at 25. It's no big deal...start going to the gym...seriously...it will do wonders both physically and mentally...
oaks Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You haven't really given much information so I'm just going to guess that the reason you haven't had a gf is because you haven't asked many girls out on dates. Am I wrong?
SomewhatExperienced Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 From what I read here it seems many women prefer men that are players. They like men that have done hundreds of women over shy men that do not sleep around. I don't agree with this at all, though, it does tend to be the sentiment of a lot of guys here on this forum (thought, I realize that post developed into a different point). I think most of this comes from these guys' anger over not getting girls while seeing them date "bad boys". I don't really believe that girls LIKE players at all or guys who sleep around a lot. What they do like is guys who are independent (see: not needy). I can think back to my earlier, more confused days of dating and it still makes me cringe. I was so in need of affection of validation from women because I felt like it was this elusive thing that I wanted and needed so much, and when I did date a girl who showed interest back I would latch on. Most times this drove the girl away. Now, I much more relaxed when it comes to dating because I don't NEED to have that. I know there's plenty of fish in the sea and when I'm dating someone, or even just asking them out, I have that in my head. It doesn't matter if they aren't interested, or if the date doesn't go well or we don't have chemistry. I can now just consider it a nice conversation or afternoon having a coffee and keep going on with my life from there. There will be more women and more opportunities. But this doesn't mean that I don't give each girl a real shot, or that I don't appreciate them, it just mean I don't NEED them and I have to say that their reaction to me now is much more positive. I think it's because they don't feel pressured and can just be themselves. The last few girls I've been with (although they didn't become LTRs) commented about how "comfortable" they feel around me. Unfortunately, a lot of bad boys or jerks have the same characteristics but it's just that they have less respect for women and their intentions are different (like sex). So the moral of the story is don't get bitter like these guys on this forum. Go out. Learn to actually enjoy the company and friendship of girls. Don't be scared to ask them out for a casual coffee if you're interested and don't be hurt if they say NO simply because you'd can't be everyone's type. Just remember that you are someone's type and be open to meet them and take the chance when opportunity knocks.
RoseBloodSweet Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 It's NOTHING to be ashamed over! My boyfriend is going to be 25 in August, and I'm the only girl he's really been with. No, it's not common for guys like this to wait so long, but it's surely nothing bad, and if anything you should feel proud to do the opposite of what everyone else is doing!
irc333 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Noticing a lot of these "Inexperienced Men" threads popping up a lot more lately. lol I mean I just dnt know....I dnt mean to sound desperate but ****! It would be nice to have a partner. The only time I had a intercounter with a girl was my date for prom night but even then that went terrible. I barely ran any "game" on her and thats if I even had any. any guys gone through this?
Feelin Frisky Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 It could be a lot of things. Do you encounter many women on your job? Do you even have a job? Have you finished with school? Do you live in a city? I had a terrible drought in my early 20's because I worked crappy hours, had to put off college, and some other issues about having to commute so long every day to and from the job. After I went on a campaign to get more fit and wear more grown-up looking garb and work regular day-shift hours where I could get more exposure to females it all worked and suddenly i had more options than I could respond to. So don't despair--work hard at looking your best and working in places and at times that get you exposure to the ladies. Then assert yourself--don't sit back and wait. Make new encounters count by being as friendly as you can. Worked for me.
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