How do I prove I'm not bullying with my brother anymore

[SophieRegretsIt]

There was a time both my brother and I used to bullied others at school. Our strategies used to be differed. My brother would only get physical with the guys but verbally with girls. I was way more into verbal and making them cry with everyone (both guys and girls). Sometimes it was me who organized a fight while my brother fought the guy. Very rarely have I gotten physical but that was still coward of me since it was with a guy I knew wouldn't hurt me.

 

However, I regret this and have been trying to explain I'm no longer bullying with him. I have apologized countless of times but don't think anyone wants to hear me. Only one person accepted it but said she still can't forget it. Worst is now when my brother gets into a fight with another guy, steals or does something else, they all think I'm part of it, that I'm still involved when I'm not... I got nothing to do with it anymore. Help....

[Finch]

People who have been bullied by you are not going to forget about it just because you ask them to. While it's good that you are apologizing and trying to make amends, it might take a long time for people to trust you. Like it or not, because you were involved in this along with your brother people are going to still look at you as a team, and so his actions are going to affect how people see you, at least until you have firmly established that you are no longer in any way taking part in his actions.

The people that you have hurt have a right to be angry, and they have good reasons not to trust you. You are going to have to put consistent effort into showing people that you have changed. If you are honestly sorry for your actions then you just have to suck it up and keep showing people that you mean what you say. Apologizing is not going to be enough. You have to give people time and show them through the things you do that you have changed.

[SophieRegretsIt]

It's been 7-8 months since I've changed but this will take a very long while. They seem to hate at a greater intense than my brother.

 

Yesterday I was returning someone's pen but she ignored me. At this moment it feels like no matter hard hard I'm trying to make things right, nothing works.

 

As you stated, my brothers' actions do affect me. Two girls were starting to talk to me until my brother gets into a fight again (and the guy he fought happens to be someone they knew). Now it's like back to zero again.

[turnera]

It's been 7-8 months since I've changed but this will take a very long while. They seem to hate at a greater intense than my brother.

 

Yesterday I was returning someone's pen but she ignored me. At this moment it feels like no matter hard hard I'm trying to make things right, nothing works.

 

As you stated, my brothers' actions do affect me. Two girls were starting to talk to me until my brother gets into a fight again (and the guy he fought happens to be someone they knew). Now it's like back to zero again.

I take it you two are still in school? Visit your school counselor and ask her for advice on changing your path for good. Adults really DO have good ideas, having had a lot of experience in such things.