pickles1 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Okay, I am hoping this forum can help me out since I have tried other places and I really just need some solid advice to help me through this... My ex and I dated for almost 3 years, I was his first serious GF, and we were crazy in love. Over time, I got clingy and we started fighting more. It has been 1.5 months since he dumped me. It was a hard break up, he and I cried and he was devastated from the guilt of hurting me so much and his family. Well, I graduated from college a few days later and moved back home. So we are now long distance for the first time. He still has a year left of college, and I am going far away to professional school. We always had plans of staying together but he said that the way our relationship was going, we wouldn't make it long distance. Well he started texting and calling every 2-3 days after the break up and I would usually eventually respond. We started being more upbeat and happy, and just last week I flew to go see him. We fell back into old patterns, but I found out he was seeing someone else, which he continues to deny. We fought a bit, and also had some good days, and on the last day of my visit he told me he loved me so much and it was too hard. He dropped me off at the airport and said he can't make any decisions right now, and he is not sure still of what to do. He confessed to thinking that we were going to get back together when I came to visit, but clearly we were not ready since we were still having issues. I was torn, and now I feel like I'm back at square one. I got home, and decided to finally commit to doing NC, and not LC. Esp. since I know now that I was just on the back burner while he was talking to this girl (only days after we broke up!!) She and I are complete opposites from what I can tell, but I do not know her well. I called him a day after I got home and told him to not call me anymore so I can heal, and that I was hurt by him moving on to other girls so fast, but I accept his decision and support him. He did not say much. The next day (yesterday) he texted me apologizing for all of the true rumors of him hooking up with other girls, and how much it must have hurt me. I did not respond. Later, he texted asking if I could call him so that he could get closure, but I did not respond again. He texted again apologizing for asking. THEN, he drunk dialed me 6 times last night at 1 am. Today, no response. I am a little upset since I am used to him trying to get ahold of me. Here's the catch: he goes off to London to study abroad for a month in less than 3 weeks!! He told me before that if by then we dont sort things out, he does not see us getting back together. I do not know what to do now... 2-3 weeks of NC may not be enough time to make him realize. He usually gets desperate if I don't contact him after a few days, but it HAS BEEN 1.5 months since the break up, is NC too late?? What do I do, I want him back so bad! I am afraid NC will make him miss me, then move on more with the new girl since he is lonely. Opinions?? Any help is appreciated!
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