krux Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 So i'll try to make this long story as short as I possibly can. Me and my ex dated on and off for about 3 years, it was a very unhealthy relationship. We were both too controlling, jealous, and needy. We fought with each other so much about the stupidest things, BUT the sex life was amazing. Her body was smokin' and she would let me do anything, I was spoiled. However, I have finally manned up and did us both a favor and ended it cause she would never leave me even if I begged her to. We needed to move on. I have found someone else since then. She is amazing, very pretty, we have so much in common and its just a really good thing that we have going and I love spending time with her. We recently started having sex. It has been 4 times so far but every time we do it i'm just not that horny or really into it like i used to be. It's like i'm not as "stiff" as i used to be and not as "big". I AM attracted to her, she has a very nice body and feels amazing, I just don't know what the problem is. Every time we have sex I can't cum, like even if i focus on it and try it, 30mins will go by and nothing. But when i was with my ex i would have to train myself to hold it back so i would last longer, complete opposite with this girl. The last time we had sex i had to take the condom off because i could hardly maintain an erection and because i actually wanted to finish this time. I know it was unsafe, i did pull out though. I do not want to have to resort to unprotected sex just so i can finish. I don't know if its my body missing my ex's and being used to it or what. I'm just not sexually active like I used to be and its very frustrating. I would greatly appreciate it if anyone has any ideas or tips to help me out. I don't want this to affect my new partner's relationship in any way, we are very happy.
youngskywalker Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 she would let me do anything, I was spoiled. That would spoil me too. I always complain my g/f doesn't let me do everything but it keeps me coming back for more. Maybe she knows something I don't.
Author krux Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Did you and your ex have alot of make-up sex? Is it the drama and intensity that you're missing? not really, as our relationship started going downhill, we didn't have sex as much as we used to. and to the drama, god no. im a very happy person since we have split, it's just this one thing that's keeping me down... literally.
Author krux Posted June 19, 2011 Author Posted June 19, 2011 well, it's been another day. tonight wasn't too bad, tried a new condom and LOTS of foreplay, helped a bit.
D-Lish Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 well, it's been another day. tonight wasn't too bad, tried a new condom and LOTS of foreplay, helped a bit. Thanks for the update:lmao: Just kidding. I think my ex was gay- I gave him an open door-" tell me your fantasies- what do you want me to do to you" sort of deal- and he was set in his ways and mechanical when it came to sex. He didn't like open mouth kissing, he didn't like face to face sex, and his favorite position was me lying on my stomache with my legs closed and him entering me from behind. It was weird. He also bugged me for anal constantly. I am an attractive girl, he never wanted to have face to face sex though. He did love the BJ's with the finger in the bum:cool: Maybe you can gently guide this relationship into more sexually charged territory. She might just be struggling with some insecurities. Keep the compliments flowing... She might just be inexperienced and in need of a loving and supportive partner to help her realize her sexual potential.
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