pluto. Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I'm 26 and I've never been in a relationship. I think I'm average looking, a few guys I worked with in the past were interested in me but it never led to a serious relationship. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. I probably should go out more often but it's difficult because most of my friends are in a relationship and aren't really up for going out anymore. I'm also very shy which doesn't help. I feel like I need to change my life but I'm not sure how.
UpDownAllAround Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Hey I'm 31, a guy, and never been in a relationship either (you folks should feel better that I'm the oldest in this thread yet without experience). Haven't had a successful attempt yet (all failures). It feels like as time just keeps going on and that opportunity for a relationship disappears like an hourglass with each passing second. :(
Author pluto. Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 I think what we need to realize is that inexperience isn't a flaw, and that someone who would judge us for it is not worth it, anyways. This is true. I went on a few dates with a guy I used to work with a couple of years ago and he lost interest after I told him that I was still a virgin at the time. I was really upset when it happened but I guess he wasn't worth it at the end of the day. It's good to hear I'm not the only one. It often feels that way. I guess a lot of people just lie about these kind of things.
crazyd Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 "This is true. I went on a few dates with a guy I used to work with a couple of years ago and he lost interest after I told him that I was still a virgin at the time. I was really upset when it happened but I guess he wasn't worth it at the end of the day." He's not worth it. Nor is anyone else who judges you for being a virgin As you can see from the replies, you're certainly not the only in the type of situation in. First, DON'T change, or try to change who you are. I've tried that route myself, people saw through the facade, and I didn't feel comfortable. Be proud of who you are. Try to find opportunities in everyday situations, whether going for coffee, to the store... If you see somebody doing something, and you want to chime in and comment, go for it! It may, or may not lead anywhere, but it's a good way to make yourself feel comfortable engaging other people. Another option to try is to volunteer, or find groups for hobbies you may enjoy and join them. Good luck!
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