iame211 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 My coworker and I had been texting for about 2 months, some flirting in between. At work, he always tease me and try to get my attention. He knows I have a bf and i talked to him about my relationship problems. He said he doesn't mind and i can bug him anytime. I tried to get him to go hang out with me but he said he's always busy. Bf and i had a break recently to sort things out. Sometimes during the break he invited me to come over to his place then we ended up making out twice. The second time, things were escalated and i had to stop us from going further. When he dropped me off, I tried to kiss him but then he pull back so i stopped. It's been a week since then and we haven't text since. I tried to text him earlier during the week but seems like he was busy and not as responsive so i decided to give him space and not texting him again. Normally we go back and forth on the texting but now he had stopped completely. I tried small talks with him at work and he stopped by my cubicles sometimes to quickly say hi but other than that nothing else. We both pretend nothing happened. Do you think he had lost interest since I didn't have sex with him? I think about him every 15 mins and even when i try to stay busy like going to the gym, hang out with friends, he's still someone circulate on my mind and it's driving me crazy! If i text him again and he ignores me, i'd feel rejected and I have to face that rejection everyday at work.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 yeah, that's exactly what it is. he knew you had a boyfriend and were willing to flirt with him, so you're the cheating type. once he realized he wasn't going to get laid, he cut his losses, because if you'd cheat on the boyfriend you'd cheat on him too. you're not relationship material.
Janesays Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 He was likely not that interested in you in the first place. Sorry.
musemaj11 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Guys who get upset over not getting sex are like women who get upset over not gettting paid for on dates. They are lame self entitled people. Not worth your time.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 He was likely not that interested in you in the first place. Sorry. not really. you might try reading the OP's message before responding, it helps . Guys who get upset over not getting sex are like women who get upset over not gettting paid for on dates. They are lame self entitled people. Not worth your time. women who flirt with co-workers while they have boyfriends or husbands are not worth much of mens' time, more like. that's what happened here. you should also read the OP's post before replying.
fishtaco Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I have a different view. If a woman isn't going to have sex with a guy, then don't put yourself in that situation. If you almost get there then put the brakes on, then I'll think the woman is playing me. Or she's psycho. Respectable women won't go there with men they don't want to have sex with. So it's simple really. If you're not going to have sex with the guy, don't pretend you were going to. I think it's fair and reasonable.
Janesays Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 not really. you might try reading the OP's message before responding, it helps . I did read the first message and I stand by my post. Didn't sound like he was ever actually interested to me. Willing to flirt and maybe mess around when he's not 'always busy' doesn't indicate interest to me as much as does boredom.
musemaj11 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 not really. you might try reading the OP's message before responding, it helps . women who flirt with co-workers while they have boyfriends or husbands are not worth much of mens' time, more like. that's what happened here. you should also read the OP's post before replying. She said she and her bf are taking a break.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) She said she and her bf are taking a break. which is code for "i want to mess around with the guy at work i've been flirting with, but you're welcome to be my backup plan". hey guess what, self absorbed women: this is what you get when 95%+ of your thought and 100% of your actions are all about yourself. there is a line, believe it or not, that even you can't cross. if you want to play the role of the woman who flirts up one guy before ditching your existing one, you're going to have to go through with the sex, or you're going to find yourself alone. enjoy. Edited June 18, 2011 by thatone
youngskywalker Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Leave the guy alone. You already played dick tease with him. What more do you want?
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) Leave the guy alone. You already played dick tease with him. What more do you want? she said what she wanted, she doesn't care about the boyfriend or the guy at work, her only concern is that she might feel rejected if she doesn't have attention from one or the other. if push comes to shove, she could always do the janitor in the broom closet or something. Edited June 18, 2011 by thatone
youngskywalker Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 she said what she wanted, she doesn't care about the boyfriend or the guy at work, her only concern is that she might feel rejected if she doesn't have attention from one or the other. if push comes to shove, she could always do the janitor in the server closet or something. Yeah, I'd really like to find the guy and pay him for lessons on how to rope a girl. Class act. OP, this guy has you so played it isn't funny. For good reason too. You deserve it for playing him first. Go find some other guy to play games with. Apparently, he's finished with you and has moved on. Don't waste your time with asking questions as to why.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Yeah, I'd really like to find the guy and pay him for lessons on how to rope a girl. Class act. OP, this guy has you so played it isn't funny. For good reason too. You deserve it for playing him first. Go find some other guy to play games with. Apparently, he's finished with you and has moved on. Don't waste your time with asking questions as to why. yeah, i really love these threads when they show up. the OP tried to temporarily shelve her boyfriend for the fling with a co worker and the co worker saw it coming a mile away. when he didn't get laid he moved on to the next woman by the copier. No, you can't always get what you want You can't always get what you want You can't always get what you want And if you try sometime you find You get what you need
Eddie Edirol Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 The guy realized when you didnt sleep with him that you wanted to make it more than a booty call, and he didnt. So he is trying to keep away from you now so you dont stay attached.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I have a different view. If a woman isn't going to have sex with a guy, then don't put yourself in that situation. If you almost get there then put the brakes on, then I'll think the woman is playing me. Or she's psycho. Respectable women won't go there with men they don't want to have sex with. So it's simple really. If you're not going to have sex with the guy, don't pretend you were going to. I think it's fair and reasonable. This. No one likes a tease.
phineas Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 When a man hears "on a break" from a woman it universally means "I want to slut around while expecting you not to do anything with anyone else" So of course he only wanted sex.
rafallus Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) If you have a bf and don't put out, he probably saw no point in hanging out with you. Relationship was out of the question, because you two got to the point that can be considered cheating on your bf. When he learned casual sex is out of the question too, burning question arose: what's the point? But this is exactly why "don't date coworkers" mantra is so true. Edited June 18, 2011 by rafallus
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