ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Messaged this girl on match. We went back and forth a couple of times. I gave her the option to add me on fb if she felt comfortable (some girls feel better 'checking u out' - i don't care if they do) and gave her my # (figured texting/talking would be easier than "matching" back and forth) 2 days or so went by - no further contact. I msged her today and said "hey, just thought I'd say hi. hope you had a nice day" she writes back "hey! hope you had a nice day too! had a great day, went to the museum" Should I keep writing her back, not really sure what's going on.
Nexus One Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Perhaps she's waiting for you to make all the moves. It's possible that she's passive when it comes to communication before dating. Perhaps she wants you to chase her. It's also possible that she's not (very) interested. There could also be a myriad of other reasons, too little info to go by.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Yes, keep writing her back or ask her about it. There may have been a miscommunication where she thought you were just giving her your e-mail as an option and you thought that that was the only way you two would be talking now. Or she could have been shy and waiting for you to e-mail her first and assumed you weren't interested because you didn't. Girls who want to get rid of a guy will ignore all messages and phone calls he gives them, especially messages because those are easier to ignore "accidentally." If she responded then she most likely has some interest still.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Girls who want to get rid of a guy will ignore all messages and phone calls he gives them, especially messages because those are easier to ignore "accidentally." If she responded then she most likely has some interest still. OR they feel guilty about ignoring a nice guy so they answer him, but dont really engage him and hope he gets the hint. CG28 you can chase her all you want, but assume shes not interested until you actually call on the phone. Dont bother with facebook ever again.
Author ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 Wrote her back. Didn't know which museum she was talking about so asked about it. Told her my reasoning for fb/phone #. If she writes back cool, if not, oh well. -------- Who here has experience dating an "independent" woman btw? Are they really ever worth it? And is it just a big code word for "selfish as hell"?
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Who here has experience dating an "independent" woman btw? Are they really ever worth it? And is it just a big code word for "selfish as hell"? everyone who ever went after women in their mid/late 20s does, lol. code for selfish as hell? that depends. you just gotta define what you're willing to put up with. "i go to school in the morning, work in the afteroons, and have a sport league thing on sundays". my thought = that's fine, i can deal with those. "sorry i know we haven't gotten together in two weeks but i'm hanging out with my girlfriends this friday". my thought = go lesbian then. (and yeah that's code for 'let me see who approaches me at this bar and if no one better than you i'll call you tomorrow').
RovingReporter Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Here's how you do it... Step 1: Email her and ask for her phone number Step 2: Call her Step 3: ask her out on a date You know how many emails she probably gets on match? She's definitely not going to go out of her way for a guy so YOU have to do all the work initially. Stop giving your number to girls.
Author ConfusedGuy28 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 I like to judge their interest level. I'm not going to chase a girl just to chase a girl for her liking. If she can't reciprocate and give out her # as well, then not someone I'd want to talk with anyways. (I'm talking to 3 other girls from match anyways, so if a potential #4 has no interest, why bother?)
D-Lish Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I like to judge their interest level. I'm not going to chase a girl just to chase a girl for her liking. If she can't reciprocate and give out her # as well, then not someone I'd want to talk with anyways. (I'm talking to 3 other girls from match anyways, so if a potential #4 has no interest, why bother?) Seems #4 is the one getting under your skin- so bother. Otherwise, you're settling.
2sunny Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Here's how you do it... Step 1: Email her and ask for her phone number Step 2: Call her Step 3: ask her out on a date You know how many emails she probably gets on match? She's definitely not going to go out of her way for a guy so YOU have to do all the work initially. Stop giving your number to girls. I like to judge their interest level. I'm not going to chase a girl just to chase a girl for her liking. If she can't reciprocate and give out her # as well, then not someone I'd want to talk with anyways. (I'm talking to 3 other girls from match anyways, so if a potential #4 has no interest, why bother?) ask for her phone number so you can ask her out on a date. then call - or just ask her out to dinner without having her number. i like the man to initiate and take the lead, especially in the beginning. if i want to meet him, i will. if he doesn't take the lead, it never goes anywhere. btw - independent is good... means she has areas of interest and stays busy. doesn't have a thing to do with being selfish. find out about what areas of interest she has.
USMCHokie Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 I agree with the general concensus on this one...you need to ask her for her number...it's fine to offer up yours, but the first and only thing you must get from her is that phone number...you don't need her email or her Facebook or any of that nonsense...that'll all come in time...after a few exchanged messages with some sort of substance showing mutual interest, tell her you'd like to take her out sometime and ask for that phone number...just giving her yours doesn't count... No sense p*ssyfooting around...
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