OCCDAVE Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 i met this girl week or so again at the mall.we exchanged numbers and began talk alot.we would text and stay on the ph till 2 am.fast forward i say lets hang out today she said ya that would be good i work till 6 ill meet u at 7.well today comes not a word so i sent a text so we still on for tonight Hey I'm sorry I've had a busy day. I have a huge project to work on I'm sorry but is there anyway to take a Raincheck? i replied with thats fine anyway im bit ticked off or overreacting
Author OCCDAVE Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 should i text her or will i look needy days almost gone havnt heard anything
surfrider4284 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You'll definitely look needy. Just chill a few days and see if she wants to do something.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 firstly, you invited her to stand you up. if you had a spot and time to meet, you shouldn't have texted her until 6:30 came around to tell her you were on your way there, rather than asking whether she was coming or not. if she still tried to back out you should've asked for another day right there on the spot. don't leave a conversation by accepting her terms.
Author OCCDAVE Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 not gonna lie i was a bit mad after that comment of her not showing.i was gonna hit her up acting like i made other plans tonight and was.on my way out just wanna say sup
surfrider4284 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 not gonna lie i was a bit mad after that comment of her not showing.i was gonna hit her up acting like i made other plans tonight and was.on my way out just wanna say sup please don't do that.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 not gonna lie i was a bit mad after that comment of her not showing.i was gonna hit her up acting like i made other plans tonight and was.on my way out just wanna say sup please don't do that. agreed, that's even worse than what you did before. it reeks of bullsh*t. be mad. you should be, she flaked out on you at the last minute. if you want to keep after her don't let up next time you wind up on the phone until you have another date and time. and don't go looking for validation or confirmation after that date and time is set.
Author OCCDAVE Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 true so should i let her make the contact now.speaking of which if she hits me up later do i act cold or just like it didnt bug me
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 you don't have to act cold, but don't let that conversation end without a time and place to meet up again, or a flat out rejection, one or the other. you've got to put her to a yes or no decision. and she agreed to one date already so you're past that, say something like "so i got this raincheck here in my hand, what time and place should i write on it?" you don't ask for another date, you ask when the date is. if she continues to flake out tell her that everyone is busy, yet everyone finds time to eat at least one meal every day, people don't starve to death, so all you need to know is what day and time you're going to eat dinner together next week. at that point she'll either disappear or give you a date/time.
TuffCookieX Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 true so should i let her make the contact now.speaking of which if she hits me up later do i act cold or just like it didnt bug me Just sound like you lead a very exciting life. If she wants to hang out, it's gotta be on her terms.
Author OCCDAVE Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 speak of the devil she called me and we talked a bit.i then use the raincheck comment lol she set it up for tuesday.guess thats all fine and dandy but ill see from till then how she acts .like the other user said any flaky from her ill tell her go play gms elsewhere
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 speak of the devil she called me and we talked a bit.i then use the raincheck comment lol she set it up for tuesday.guess thats all fine and dandy but ill see from till then how she acts .like the other user said any flaky from her ill tell her go play gms elsewhere see, pretty simple. let her call until then. if she calls to talk, go ahead and talk, but don't volunteer more than she gives you. in fact a little less doesn't hurt. she tells you something harmless and non interesting about herself, you reply with one harmless and non interesting thing too, but only one. keep the score even til the date place and time and make it clear without saying so that you expect her to be there. the rest is all on you then, assuming she shows (and if she doesn't, you still got your answer so you know what to do).
oaks Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 No, you weren't stood up. Stood up is when you're waiting at the agreed meeting place and she never shows and doesn't contact you. She just flaked on you. She knew she had a date so she should manage her work around it. Glad to hear she called you - but don't put up with any more flakiness in the near future.
rafallus Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 be mad. you should be, she flaked out on you at the last minute. And, from her perspective, why would she want to meet with the guy she was already on the fence with, and yet he pressures her? For future, she probably wasn't excited enough about seeing you. Whenever a girl flaked on me, I kinda could see it coming - silence between the scheduling, kinda bland way to invite her, and her emotions faded out. Myself, just ended up dropping contact with them altogether - not sure, how to salvage it, but if it goes like that, it isn't a big loss at all.
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 And, from her perspective, why would she want to meet with the guy she was already on the fence with, and yet he pressures her? For future, she probably wasn't excited enough about seeing you. Whenever a girl flaked on me, I kinda could see it coming - silence between the scheduling, kinda bland way to invite her, and her emotions faded out. Myself, just ended up dropping contact with them altogether - not sure, how to salvage it, but if it goes like that, it isn't a big loss at all. she was probably on the fence because he was acting nervous and unsure of himself. that's the whole point, he should get over that and be more assertive.
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