irc333 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 ....where you think you've emailed a lot of people, (if you're a man) women....and you now can't remember wether or not you had emailed them before when browsing the profiles...and you wind up sending perhaps a 2nd email to them anyhow? lol
carhill Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Nope, never have. Can't you track that kind of stuff? Back when I was online dating, I kept a 'dossier' on each contact; a separate folder with pictures and information and any correspondence. I don't believe in blanket contact methodologies so perhaps that's the reason it hasn't happened. Who knows, you might get lucky the second time around
Author irc333 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Nope, never have. Can't you track that kind of stuff? Back when I was online dating, I kept a 'dossier' on each contact; a separate folder with pictures and information and any correspondence. I don't believe in blanket contact methodologies so perhaps that's the reason it hasn't happened. Who knows, you might get lucky the second time around No....why would I want to keep track? lol Yeah, I'm going around, usually months or up to a year later thinking, "Did I email her before?" Sometimes these people take a break, delete their profile, and then start off with a whole new screen name and sometimes NEW pictures. Yet, they look vaguely familiar.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I'm a faces guy, less of a name guy, so I always remember a face. I always remember if I've emailed a girl before. I guess I never emailed sooooo many women to the point I couldn't remember who I've emailed or not. I don't email just any girl. She has to be someone that I think I would match with, and if she can't convey that at all in a profile, then I don't even bother trying to write something to her as it's a waste of time.
thatone Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 typically not since i don't mass email, but i did have to be careful this past few days when doing so trying to find a concert date on a road trip while browsing profiles in another city. i spent about 30 minutes typing a message to one that i had just messaged the day before, luckily i caught it before sending it .
grkBoy Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Frankly, if you see someone online that you're not sure if you emailed them a year ago or not, email them anyway. If she rejected you back then, she'll probably do it again...but better to try and fail than not to try at all. I think if one is on a dating site for more than a year and can't even get any results, then it's time they get some help. Not a therapist or anything, but maybe one of those "Hitch" date doctors. Men and women...if one is going to say that everyone on a site isn't worth going after, then why sign up? I tried PlentyOfFish in the past and thought it was a total waste...so I got off it and stopped wasting my time.
oaks Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 and you wind up sending perhaps a 2nd email to them anyhow? lol Yes. Oops. Some sites make it easier to spot that you've already contacted someone than others. For the sites that make it too hard I put names and dates into a spreadsheet. (and by "too hard" I mean "takes longer than checking the spreadsheet"). So for PoF I use a spreadsheet. For OKC I don't need to.
Author irc333 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 (edited) Frankly, if you see someone online that you're not sure if you emailed them a year ago or not, email them anyway. If she rejected you back then, she'll probably do it again...but better to try and fail than not to try at all. I think if one is on a dating site for more than a year and can't even get any results, then it's time they get some help. Not a therapist or anything, but maybe one of those "Hitch" date doctors. Agreed, at THIS point, perhaps it's time to re-assess your dating criteria if you're turning down a crap load of decent guys to find the PERFECT guy....who you might not ever find. I've also come to the realization, I've seen these same women through out the years...which concludes that ANY woman I've seen on not only DATING sites, but also social networking sites AND had bumped into on other non-Dating/social networking sites (ie. - the Meetup site , E-vite, Facebook party invites, etc), and even in person at real life events, like at parties, House BBQ's, get togethers and the like. This tells me something, these women have EXHAUSED all their options, and I keep running into them....which says a lot about how they've rejected ALMOST every unattached that has internet access. lol You'd think if you'd start seeing the SAME people OVER AND OVER AND OVER again....that you might want to start going out with the short and/or bald guy who isn't necessarily adonis that you REALLY wanted, even though she's not much to write home about in appearances as well. It further reinforces the unrealistic expections these people have, in that they've rejected EVERY single guy in a 50 mile geographic radius. You'd think "Man, I keep seeing these same people over and over again, perhaps I better start considering them now...and at least TALK to them for a moment before deleting their email?" Seriously, when you realize when you're little "singles" world has become a little smaller, it's perhaps time to re-assess one's criteria. Edited June 18, 2011 by irc333
TokyoG33kyGal Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 lol it happened to me but i was the recipient of the private message XD. it wasn't a dating website but this guy sent me a really long message which looked like a template for all the women he hits on that site. it was over a year when he sent the message to me when he sent another...i replied and told him, "dude, please change your avatar and your template message cuz you sent me this exact message a year ago" XD
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