Irishguy1125 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 We broke up on tuesday after 7 months together, i'm 21 and she's 20, the timing and way she broke up with me seems odd, she claimed she had been thinking about it, but was more than affectionate and blowing up my phone the week before to hang out and what not. So the next day, she texts me saying "I hope you do well on your midterm tonight!" and i say thanks but i need some space to process things, she goes alright, that's understandable. So later on that night, I text her asking her to come over, knowing she was already busy I shouldn't have, but what I found surprising was the speed at which she texted back and the length of the text, it didn't take more than 30 seconds between texts for her to respond back, just jumped on it when normally it takes 10-20 mins for her to respond to my texts while we were together, so I just told her i had to do stuff and i'd catch her later and we haven't spoken since. Now the next time i am seeing her is on her birthday which is a a surprise dinner on monday, what do I do when I see her and do yall get why she texted me so soon after the break up?
radiodarcy Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 your guess is as good as mine. but if i had to take a gander i would say she's feeling free and flirty after the break up and she sees you as not only a friend, but an option. she could also be feeling guilty for breaking up with you in the first place and is "checking in" to make sure you're not mad at her. soon after he dumped me my ex also started sending me texts. and yes when i would respond he would get right back to me. but after a week or so he started taking longer to respond or didn't respond at all. my guess is he got over his guilt and no longer saw me as an option - -i.e. he found someone else. i don't want to project my experience onto yours but it seems to me your ex is doing the same thing. it's like they say here on love shack, unless your ex is telling you they want to get back together it's best to stick to NC, ignore her and don't read into anything she says or does. it's not worth it and it will drive your crazy. and yes, NC includes not going to her birthday dinner later this week. if you must go. simply say "happy birthday" stay for a bit and then slip out.
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