He Got Jealous - But I Didn't Do It Purposley

June 17, 2011

I was working last night, and my Ex bf came in - this was awkward, but whilst there i spoke to him etc, then i get a text its him saying

'You can f**k yourself & collect all your things or they are going to the tip'

I was shocked at this, (my stuff is at his until i get my place) so i walked past him and he said 'did you get my text'

i said yes, why is it so nasty?

And he just said just f**k off.

SO what im thinking is that on the weekend i was playing pool with this guy and my friend and this other guy.

One of the guys were in last night @ the bar, and my ex saw me playing pool too.

So he obviously thinks something is going on, which it ISNT!!!!

I feel bad that he feels jealous and angry at me becos i dont want him to feel like that, ive text him saying there is nothing going on.

He is clearly jealous, but when the day we split up and he spent the day and night with the girl i hate most who affected our relationship - I hardly even mention it.

I just dont want him to feel bad.

June 17, 2011

Pfffft! Really? Forget his feelings! You're broken up. I understand if you still care for him, because suckily after breakups we still do, but he's being an ass... on purpose. So have someone help you get your stuff from him, and stop dealing with him. I would roll my eyes at this guys audacity to flip out like that, but we all handle things differently.

I'd say go into NC. It's up to you though.

June 17, 2011

Thanks you for your reply, Yeah the only reason we spoke is becos i work in a pub and he comes in ..... other than that its NC

I told him i will go tomorrow with my friend and her car and get it all. Ishe said i can leave it all at hers which is cool.

It just seems like hes going back on his words you no what i mean, like one minute he dont want me then when he sees me he goes mad becos im aparently with this guy... But im not at all !

i would be jealous of him too when he speaks to other girls but if i do it then so can he vice versa. You just gotta get on with it

June 17, 2011

Run run run from this guy. He seems like a complete arsehole. He would rather make threats than talk like an adult. Do you really want to stay with him if he is going to treat you like that? You should pick up your things and never look back.

June 17, 2011

Forget his feelings. You are not with him and must continue living your life. Don't feel bad.

June 17, 2011

So lets see if i have got this right.

You split up as he was flirting or worse with someone else.

He accepted the break up easily, told you he didnt miss you and continued the flirting or whatever with this same person (you can replace flirting with another word if you like)

So now single you have been with someone else and are also flirting with other guys and he gets mad

Sounds as if he is a bit immature.

Im afraid you should have been pleading with him to stay together and been miserable and depressed since the break up and definitely not going out with anyone else.

Enough ?

June 17, 2011

Its a long story but basically the day we split up he went with the only girl i do not like due to her textin him asking him for sex when we were togther ... So why does he think he has the right to talk to me like that becos yes i was talking to a guy...?

Your correct he is immature or hes just insecure becos the fact is other people want me !

Kilty your very abrupt but i like it, its what i need.

I shouldnt feel bad at all should i.

He f*****g 25 years old too...

Thanks all for comments very much appreciated.

June 17, 2011

All these people are saying your ex is an *******, he isn't. People say things they don't mean when they are stressed out. Ya'll stop telling her to forget about the guy and stuff, people will and always have ******* moments.

I agree with this, I was an amazing boyfriend, treated my ex really well, and never called her anything wrong (except crazy as a joke), and when my ex dumped me because she i saw her at the bar with another guy that she was texting, hanging out with, more then me... i got really stressed out and I called her a bitch for the first time in 3 years. We are both stressed out from the situation and words were thrown back and forth

June 17, 2011

Oh yeah he probably didnt mean it. But the relationship is over so why do we have to argue after!

I just want him to be happy and i feel last night he wasnt .. thats bad aint it. i should just laugh it off.

He hurt my feelings incredibly, he knew i didnt like her. hes not a bad person tho hes not a player or anything, just an idiot! Once he realises what he's lost he will be crawling back then at that time i can say

'Sorry but u made it clear you dont want me'

June 17, 2011

All these people are saying your ex is an *******, he isn't. People say things they don't mean when they are stressed out. Ya'll stop telling her to forget about the guy and stuff, people will and always have ******* moments.

I agree with this, I was an amazing boyfriend, treated my ex really well, and never called her anything wrong (except crazy as a joke), and when my ex dumped me because she i saw her at the bar with another guy that she was texting, hanging out with, more then me... i got really stressed out and I called her a bitch for the first time in 3 years. We are both stressed out from the situation and words were thrown back and forth

You are both missing the point

They had a break up, mainly due to this guy having GIGS or whatever with some other girl.

And on the day of the break up he goes and hangs with this same girl.

Then when LJhappydays asks him some time later if he misses her he says NO

So what is LJHD supposed to do ? Crawl under a rock and sob uncontrollably.

Then when he sees her flirting with somone else or hearing she has been with someone he gives her all sorts of dogs abuse ???

Being a guy i'll be the first to stick up for other guys and put our side of the story out there

But jeez - if both of you think LJHD is completely in the wrong and the guys behaviour is acceptable then think again.

If he thought he had made a mistake and realised he missed her then it was time to man up and tell her that - not fly off the handle like a big spoiled baby

And as i said before - did he expect her to never go with anyone again whilst he was ?

Jeez

June 17, 2011

My ex has gigs... I had gigs too (I did not know what it was 6 years ago) and he probably doesnt know what it is now. I guess I am more understanding realizing that I completely crushed a girls heart that I had been dating for 10 months for random on and off relationships.

I did not think about it until 3 days ago when one of my old friends called me up and said hey do you know an Amy ****** (I said to myself uhh yea) He said he mentioned my name to her and she kind of got weird. Asked if I was an RA at school with her and I was like oh crap. Everything started being put together in my mind like a puzzle. I had the feeling that when my ex drunk texted the guy one night after a party, I had this gut feeling that our relationship was over and I couldnt put my finger on it on how I knew until 3 days ago.

You know what, at the time I did not miss her when I was going through GIGS at a school there there was 61% girls 39% guys in my incoming class. It was too difficult to be in a relationship for me. I couldnt give her a good reason why I broke up with her. Honestly I did not miss her until almost 10 months later when school ended my senior year. The reason I did not miss her is probably because I saw her everyday, we still got dinner together and we worked together. You know what I felt like a piece of crap after that and instead of facing the consequences of my actions, i moved away and rebuilt a new life and never apologized to her. Its human nature.

After reading homebrews post like 30948594392 times, I honestly cant be mad at my ex anymore. Its not really her fault. I did the same thing. I think she could have handled it better but not everyone is the same. I did not lie Amy at all, I called the chick I met up drunk one night in Amy's room and I didnt even think it was wrong. I told Amy the truth and I saw how bad it hurt her. You really cant blame someone with GIGS about their actions. You have to let them go. Now being on the receiving end of GIGS, it sucks massive donkey balls. I feel betrayed, crushed, hurt, anger, pain, headaches, insomnia but you know what, I see my ex today and Im going to do the right thing, Im going to forgive her face to face and let her go. Will it make me sleep easier tonight, probably not. But I want to be able not to hold any more resentment towards her while Im building new friendships/relationships down the road

June 17, 2011

And too clarify at how f'ed up a situation i am in now... my 24 year old ex left me to hang out with a bald, unattractive, lanky, lives in a trailer park 37 almost 38 year old guy. I made a joke to her last saturday that I expected an upgrade to someone of my roommates calliber not a 5 point downgrade

June 20, 2011