bikinibeach Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Oh brother.... I sent my ex that email you all told me NOT to send!!!... but this one was even worse!!! After a period of nc (....ok it was a week but still) he emailed me trying to act casual and friendly. I replied (mistake one) in a neutral, "professional" and unemotional way thanks for the information he had relayed and that going forward I would appreciate if he would respect my request to not be further contacted by him, no hard feelings, take care. Keep in mind, I received this email from him an HOUR after I had the foresight to block his email address....he sent this from an address I didn't know about. oops. He replied that he would gladly throw away our relationship and my friendship (which i wasn't even offering) but we had such "imp0ssibly good" sex, would I be interested in having sex on the regular? This is a contentious issue because I entered into this relationship 100% open after being single for a year. He made me think he was too...but he was deeply emotionally entrenched with his manipulative victim ex gf who pretended that I didn't exist. He had NO intentions of giving that up and was basically stringing me along as a sexual outlet and making me believe it was more than that. For example: I took him on a trip that I won, he asked to use my computer, when I sat down at it after, his email was still logged in.... they were emailing each other every day, he would complain about me in one sentence and then tell her how impressed he was with the hotel, the weather in the next. When he would bitch about me, she would email him back sympathetic and calling him pet names! ie "Aw, Beansy, I'm so sorry!!". .....I'm so sorry that your beautiful, amazing girlfriend took your broke ass on a trip to somewhere beautiful for free and asked if you could for once not be frantically emailing and calling people at home like a baby without his blanket??? Disgusting! oh god...i'm f**** upset now and I feel like ****. Not trying to sound high and mighty but I have refrained from lashing out at him as badly as I have wanted to because I actually feel sorry for him and think that he needs serious psychological help. I know that sounds like a typical insult from an ex girlfriend but, I'm dead serious. I think he is evil to be constantly taking every opportunity to try and hurt me after breaking up with me because hewas essentially dating his ex at the same time no matter what fancy label they want to put on it! WHY should i have to keep taking the high road of abuse from this assclown and not ONCE let him have it?? He's going to waltz into some other "classy" "high road" girl's life, btw, and deceive her (he actually told me this, how her and him will lie to people they date in the future about their relationship) worse than he did to me because now he knows what to lie about!! I feel like he can't JUST get away with it. He has done SO much wrong to me these past six months, I could write a freaking textbook. I fully accept my part in allowing him to do that and being the "bigger person" and giving him the "benefit of the doubt" when he let me down and intentionally and unintentionally hurt me, DEEP hurt, again and again and again. All the while putting this girl on a pedestal to me, running her favors, taking her out, complaining to me about her, driving her around, "comforting" her late at night and telling me how much SHE wasn't complaining (because he didn't change a thing with her! only told ME to deal with it). sometimes don't they just deserve a big old F*** YOU! enough is enough!! Here the soul-killing monstrosity that I sent to his meant to be hurtful request for fwb: "Sorry, that is reserved for someone who is now more than a friend. Didn't want to have to tell you but since you brought it up, the "imp0ssibly good" part of that was all me. I've always had it "imp0ssibly good". I still do I think I'll let you, your issues and your socia11y impaired harem of h0melies become someone else's problem for now. If he and I break up in the near future, maybe then I'll call you or something. No promises. Reply if you think your emails/texts would enjoy the taste of my auto-delete! Adios" I am so scared of retaliation. But damn! Does ANYONE think I am in the least bit entitled to express righteous anger after he just kept on after me???
Rinnix Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I feel that now that you sent him your last words, you need to delete him out of your life. Block/delete him off facebook. Block or change your home number. You know how he is, good riddance.
Author bikinibeach Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 I know! I have done these things already and then he emails me from another address. I cancelled my facebook, changed my number, everything! Dont want to have to close my email but its looking like I might have to
Rinnix Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 No need to bother. Every time he emails you, just put it into trash. Mark him under spam so it directly goes into spam inbox. He mails you cruel things, as he knows it'll get a rise out of you. Don't play into the games.
Author bikinibeach Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 horrible sleep ...nightmares of him all night long
smudge21 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I thought that email was really good. Definitely would put any person in their place, but also would mean that said person would reply with something equally cutting. You cannot read his reply, just block, delete, erase, burn, destroy... whatever it takes, as his reply will only fuel your need to send another one. Put it the other way round. He's sent you that email, you reply back with something so cunning and devious that you feel so good about it... but you get no response afterwards, nothing, nada, zip. All your hardwork for nothing. You send another, believing that maybe it didn't get through. Still nothing. You feel even worse.
BetheButterfly Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I know! I have done these things already and then he emails me from another address. I cancelled my facebook, changed my number, everything! Dont want to have to close my email but its looking like I might have to I understand why you are mad. Do you really truly want to be with him ever again? I sure wouldn't. Now that you said Goodbye (Adios), don't look back. I don't think you need to change everything anymore. If he contacts you, consider it spam, k? Train your mind to let him go and get ready for a man who is worthy of your passion. Don't waste your energy on negative passion over this guy who whines about you to his ex. What in the world is that??? Not worth your time
LexiB Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 This guy sounds like an *sshole and I see nothing wrong with putting an *sshole in his place - especially if it's what *you* need in order to get closure. You did it, it's out of your system, now move on.
Jono85 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 If he and I break up in the near future, maybe then I'll call you or something. No promises wack.
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