Lilmisus Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Alright, so today I met a very good looking guy that works at my friend's boyfriends job. Actually..he's the manager there, at the restaurant. Also, he seems pretty nice and fun, and according to my friend's boyfriend, he's "cool" and he said that if he wants to chill with me, than my friend should let us (when she asked about him). We met, when my friend and I went there after spending the day at the beach and swimming. He first talked to us when we first came in looking for her boyfriend (and to eat) and told us where to go to get to the counter. I next talked to him when he saw me carrying three plates to the table, and asked if I was "juggling them?" to which I laughed and said yes. Third time, was when we were at a counter getting ice cream, and talking with the guys there and telling them how her boyfriend worked there. He came by, smiled, and jokingly asked all of us if they were "harassing us?" to which we said that we were harassing each other. During our entire time there, we kept making eye contact and smiling at each other, and my friend kept making fun of me for it and kept saying "he's looking at you again!!" Before we left though, we stood at the counter trying to get her boyfriend's attention in the back (cute guy was standing there, in front of him), and he asked if we needed anything. We told him that he was her boyfriend, and he laughed and said "him?!" and said something to him about it. He then asked me to come up to the counter, and asked what my name was, and told me that he thought I was beautiful and wanted to know if I'd give him my number, to which I did, then we left. We came back later on so she could visit her boyfriend on his smoke break, and he informed us that Mr. Cute Guy wanted to see if we wanted to do something after work, to which I said that it depended on what it was, but sure. I ended up having to take my friend home at 10:30 though, so that fell through. But, when we visited again a couple hours later, I saw Mr. Cute Guy again while we were visiting her boyfriend. All his coworkers kept asking if I was there to see him, and asked if they wanted me to get him, to which I said "No, he's not my man, don't get him!" since I was afraid he'd think I was stalking him. They did though (of course), and told him that "his girlfriend" was there and wanted to see him. He came out a minute later, asked if we were doing something tonight, and I told him that my friend had to get home by 10:30. We joked around a bit, and a few times we made eye contact and smiled at each other while her and I waited. We ended up leaving soon after though. Right after that, I get I text from him saying it was him, and asking what my plans were for the night, to which I told him that I was just going home, and asked if he wanted to join us at the beach tomorrow. He said that he worked tomorrow, and we exchanged ages and whatnot. Right now..I told him that he's welcomed to join us at the beach tomorrow before he works at three, but I haven't gotten a reply back yet. The thing is this: I'm excited that I met someone who's not only cute, has a good job, but is really nice and seems interested..but I'm worried that I'm not the first girl he's asked for their number recently (like..today) ..especially like that. When my friend told her boyfriend how he asked for my number, he said "Oh yea, he would.." like he's done it before, and asked if I gave it to him, to which I said yea. Apparently, during the third time we were there, my friend said a cute blond was checking him out, and he was checking her out too. I said I didn't care, he wasn't my man, whatever, and she said she would, that it seemed like a bad sign. Is this just a silly case of being nervous, or do I have a real reason to be? Should I just go with it and see where this goes, like I would like to, or be extremely cautious and really think about this guy (like two friends advised me to be)?
SJC2008 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Don't worry about it, he's probably playing the numbers game which men have to and here's an example of why we have to. A few months ago I got two numbers from customers in one day (personal record for me lol!) but only called one, went on one date, and she never took my calls and by then it was WAY to late to call the other one. I should have called both, even though with my work/shcool schedule it would of been almost impossible to date both at the same time so I made a judgement call, a bad one at that. Go for it! If he's a player you'll find out soon enough. Good luck!
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Alright, so today I met a very good looking guy that works at my friend's boyfriends job. ..... Should I just go with it and see where this goes, like I would like to, or be extremely cautious and really think about this guy (like two friends advised me to be)? You really need to let your backbone slip...you sound as if you're thinking about this relationship in a long-term commitment way, when in actual fact what you should be doing, is thinking "have fun, see what develops but have no expectations." Just do it for the helluvit. Don't emotionally invest yet, just go for a good time. You can, you know. it is allowed.... Guys go around having a good time and enjoying female company for what it can do for them, not what they can do for it. Do a bit of the same. I'm not suggesting you should become a promiscuous player, but don't take things so seriously! You make it sound like you're thinking of the ring-fitting already!
Author Lilmisus Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 You really need to let your backbone slip...you sound as if you're thinking about this relationship in a long-term commitment way, when in actual fact what you should be doing, is thinking "have fun, see what develops but have no expectations." Just do it for the helluvit. Don't emotionally invest yet, just go for a good time. You can, you know. it is allowed.... Guys go around having a good time and enjoying female company for what it can do for them, not what they can do for it. Do a bit of the same. I'm not suggesting you should become a promiscuous player, but don't take things so seriously! You make it sound like you're thinking of the ring-fitting already! My post probably does sound like that, but I'm honestly not really looking too much into it or him. It was just kind of weird having my friends say that I should be worried (one friend said that him wanting to do something tonight meant he was trying to get in my pants quicker ). I want to keep that outlook: have fun and see what happens..but it's just hard when people say I should be cautious. It just is always awesome to have someone who is actually what you're looking for hit on and show interest in you...I've gotten so sick of having unpromising (and unattractive) guys ask for my number and ask me out. After a while..it gets old But I will just go with it..for now. If he ever texts me back that is Still nothing else, but I'm not worried at all about it..especially since he's already texted me a few times already tonight. Apparently my friend's boyfriend hasn't responded to her either and they were talking about tomorrow and just getting off..soo..?
Author Lilmisus Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Don't worry about it, he's probably playing the numbers game which men have to and here's an example of why we have to. A few months ago I got two numbers from customers in one day (personal record for me lol!) but only called one, went on one date, and she never took my calls and by then it was WAY to late to call the other one. I should have called both, even though with my work/shcool schedule it would of been almost impossible to date both at the same time so I made a judgement call, a bad one at that. Go for it! If he's a player you'll find out soon enough. Good luck! Good advice. Thanks! Sucks that neither story worked out in your favor though..but it's a good way to describe why guys (and girls) would or should do it. I was kind of doing it myself anyway by checking out and flirting with multiple guys all day today..could have easily given or gotten more numbers, but I didn't really try. My friend was just encouraging me to keep my mind off of my ex..and by doing so, it meant "full looking for guys" mode. This was the only guy though that really caught my eye and who I showed any real interest in
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