Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Well with my previous thread which is kind of an obvious outcome situation please read or you wont understand i just copied and pasted this because i didnt want this thread to be long http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t282863/ If you read that thread you would understand the stupid situation im in i do have feelings for her and i know her feelings for me are coming back fast! but i just refuse to give in anymore by her confused mind state after that situation i am really going NC I just want to know what do you think is going through her mind. This is exactly why people shouldn't get into a new relationship when they still have feelings for their ex I know this should be a obvious answer but i just want to hear sometime that makes alot of sense i just need some feedback
EgoJoe Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 If and when you hear from her again say something like this: "I love it when you call because it reminds me of how clueless you are and how for your sake I need to take my leave of this situation. Sort yourself out. Let me go because I don't want to deal with your problems." I wish I would have done this...almost did it a number of times but for fear of hurting my Exs feelings. It only got worse, don't give in to the guilt trips. There is a lesson SPECIFICALLY for you to learn from all of this. If you ask for advice and don't take it it's going to be a much more harsh lesson. Don't get advice from many people and take the advice you want to hear either. I did that and in the end it made me more miserable. However, I had to call her out on some passive aggresive BS otherwise I'd always end up being an emotional wuss. She wants you so you have the high ground, now, cement it.
Author Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 If and when you hear from her again say something like this: She wants you so you have the high ground, now, cement it. Wow I really dont know what to take from that comment lol! but it seems like your saying dont give in to the BS (which i had enough of thats why im going NC) and i understand that taking the advice you want to hear and ignore the advice you dont want to hear and i do believe she wants me but she is still in a relationship and its just complicating things she just doesnt know how to handle things
Author Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 So take my advice! oh well idk what your advice really is but i doubt its quilt trips for her when she was planning on coming over my house and basically going on a date with me but i do want out and thats why im strictly NC for now but the problem is the calling and texting starts up again and it gets obvious that more and more feelings for me resurface every time i go NC for a while
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Read the NC Caliguy link in my signature. Then stick to it. Why? Because it works, that's why.
Author Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Read the NC Caliguy link in my signature. Then stick to it. Why? Because it works, that's why. But what if im already healed and not letting my feeling for me ex get in the way of me dating other women
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 If you were already healed, why would you be posting here?
Author Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 If you were already healed, why would you be posting here? Lol how im not healed by posting here i said i wanted advice i did not say i was hurt by anything i been hurt by stuff went NC im much better now having feelings for someone doesnt mean ur still not healed that doesnt make sense im not hurt by anything why would i in this confusing situation just dont know what to do
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 We've told you what to do. Go No Contact, stick to No Contact, and do not break it, under any circumstances. It's by far the best thing for both of you. It's unambiguous, sends out a clear message, and stops the confusion. If you still have feelings for her, you're not over her, and still open to being hurt. I'm not sure what your problem is.....?
Author Rello55 Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 No me having feelings for is not going to hurt me me hearing she isnt single didnt even hurt me you dont understand me at all so idk what u r talking about the only way im going to get hurt is if im just sitting around waiting for her 2 come back but im not i go out all the time
TaraMaiden Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Fine. In that case - I really don't understand what the point of you posting is. Really. Help me out here. What is it you're trying to clear up, exactly....?
Author Rello55 Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 I was just trying to figure out if going NC is the right thing to do but i realized its the only thing i could do. what do you think is going on with her i dont really think its her playing games im just confused by her actions
TaraMaiden Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 You need to forget what she's doing. It doesn't matter. What matters is what you do. You can't second-guess her motives, you can only be determined in yours.
coltsfan1 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 You need to forget what she's doing. It doesn't matter. What matters is what you do. You can't second-guess her motives, you can only be determined in yours. truer words have not been sad
iceweasel6 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 truer words have not been said I concur. TaraMaiden is like an "Oracle".
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