Treble Clef Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 We've had NC for 2 weeks then I saw on facebook he's gotten sick! I'm kind of worried cos he tends to overwork. This isn't an attempt to get back together (for now, I'm saving that talk till we're in the same country), but would it be a bad idea to send any kind of message? =/
WTRanger Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 We've had NC for 2 weeks then I saw on facebook he's gotten sick! I'm kind of worried cos he tends to overwork. This isn't an attempt to get back together (for now, I'm saving that talk till we're in the same country), but would it be a bad idea to send any kind of message? =/ Unless it's terminal, then no. Stay NC. If it's not to get back together, why send a message at all?
TearyEyedPride Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Yeah. Stick with NC unless it's terminal. Think about it... if he wanted you there... you'd most definitely know. He probably has an outside support system as well, family, friends, and maybe even a possible date. My ex was dumping me, when he supposedly wasn't feeling well. So... keep NC, he'll probably bounce back from a bug without much of a problem. Worry more about you.
thelovingkind Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 No: if he broke up with you, then that's because he decided he no longer needs your care and support in this way. If his mind changes, he will contact you, and then you can decide how to respond. If you broke up with him, there is a strong likelihood any attempt to extend comfort, sympathy or care in even the slightest degree will be received as an invitation to return to being in a couple. Denial blights the mind in tremendous ways.
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