Creep Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 When a mm introduce his daughter to his mistress what is he trying to say?
Owl Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 We'd need a whole lot more information than this to make any kind of educated guess on his intent.
Author Creep Posted June 16, 2011 Author Posted June 16, 2011 i'm having an affair with a mm. He confess that he wants out of his marriage. We have seen each othr for 3 months. He has shared with her that he wants a divorce. Now he have informed her that he is having an affair with me. She calls me to confirm his story and I directed her to question him. Why would he do that? Does he really want out or does he have another motive for him doing what he did?
Owl Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 Could be either. It could be that he hoped that she'd be angry and throw him out, allowing him to pursue his relationship with you. Or it could be that he'd hoped that he would tell her, and you would get angry with him and end the affair. I couldn't hazard a guess which, but I'd suggest that if he actually told her, he's one of the few who is trying to instigate change of some kind.
Author Creep Posted June 16, 2011 Author Posted June 16, 2011 Although we still have contact , we are not in contact everyday like we was because she is now screening his cell phone and personal email. She has went so far as to email me from his account. We now communicate through his job. He share with me that he now feel better now that we are out there. I ask the question "What are your plans now since you have put everything out in the open as he say?" He said that his plans are still to divorce, but he wanted to let things calm down, because she have him under a microscope. She's documenting everything. Should I give this situation my attention and play the field or focus on someone else.
PhoenixRise Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 If he has told her he wants a divorce and he told her he is having an affair with you, why would her monitoring his phone and email make any difference? If he came clean and told her everything, including that he is leaving and wants a divorce why would he now be trying to make her think you two are not in contact? If he was upfront with her why wouldn't you have even more access to him now that there is no reason to hide anything? Did he tell her or did he get caught? Are you sure he told her he wants a divorce?
What_Next Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 Well setting aside the fact that you seem to have NO consideration for what you both are doing to his child, you seem to be questioning the story and honesty of a man that has already proven he is willing to lie and cheat. How in the heck could you trust ANYTHING he says? If he cheats WITH you; he'll cheat ON you. As hard as it is not to tear into you, I'll only say you should drop all contact with him. If he is serious about divorcing his wife and being with you, let him do it. Then you could continue this "relationship". Boy it's hard not to lash out at you.
nyrias Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 If he has told her he wants a divorce and he told her he is having an affair with you, why would her monitoring his phone and email make any difference? If he came clean and told her everything, including that he is leaving and wants a divorce why would he now be trying to make her think you two are not in contact? If he was upfront with her why wouldn't you have even more access to him now that there is no reason to hide anything? Did he tell her or did he get caught? Are you sure he told her he wants a divorce? Does information about the affair makes a difference in the divorce proceedings? Not all states have no fault divorces, right? If so, it is not unreasonable to keep on monitor the communication even when a divorce is pending. She may get more money out of it. At the same time, you need to ascertain if he has really come clean & communicated that he wants a divorce. It is easy. You can just confirm with his wife.
PhoenixRise Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 Does information about the affair makes a difference in the divorce proceedings? Not all states have no fault divorces, right? If so, it is not unreasonable to keep on monitor the communication even when a divorce is pending. She may get more money out of it. At the same time, you need to ascertain if he has really come clean & communicated that he wants a divorce. It is easy. You can just confirm with his wife. They why tell her at all? This guy got busted and is now pretending the affair is over.
bentnotbroken Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 When a mm introduce his daughter to his mistress what is he trying to say? This would be in my opinion a reason to get his behind kicked big time.
dale_gribble Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 ..."get used to it kid- this is gonna be your new mom."
Author Creep Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Does information about the affair makes a difference in the divorce proceedings? Not all states have no fault divorces, right? If so, it is not unreasonable to keep on monitor the communication even when a divorce is pending. She may get more money out of it. At the same time, you need to ascertain if he has really come clean & communicated that he wants a divorce. It is easy. You can just confirm with his wife. After overhearing a conversation with them in a heated arguement he did tell her that he wanted out. I can only assume she's monitoring him to use whatever evidence she can in the divorce to pressure him into changing his mind. She has been violent with him and has called and email me on several occasion about him.
nyrias Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 They why tell her at all? This guy got busted and is now pretending the affair is over. I suppose the guy has to give some minimum information to start the divorce proceedings, particularly when he will be with the new girl in the interim. At the same time, there is really no reason to give the wife more ammunition for the divorce.
nyrias Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 ..."get used to it kid- this is gonna be your new mom." This is not an uncommon occurrence given how prevalent step parents are.
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