ler1638 Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 I had posted a thread already about how my ex keeps coming back into my life and won't let me move on and while I am still struggling with this issue I slowly but surely am getting stronger by not replying back to him However, I have always struggled with comparing him to every new guy that I date and I am not sure how to stop doing it. For instance, the first time we broke up a year and a half ago I began dating other guys and actually found a really good guy who basically put me on a pedistool and treated me like a princess. I had never had a guy who had wanted to be with me or who had loved me more, but no matter how hard I tried to love him back I couldnt because he didnt say or do the same things as my ex infact he did the complete opposite and it turned me off and I could never get those feelings for him. Unfortunately, for him, I broke his heart and broke it off with him. I felt extremely guilty that I hurt him because I am usually the one to get hurt so I know how it feels but I couldnt stop comparing my ex to him and one thing led to another and my ex came back for me and we got back together. Well, now like I mentioned before in my other thread we have broken up a second time and I am still doing the same thing. I have been dating and talking to other guys but one guy in particular I have been talking to more seriously. I started to like him, he made me laugh, he brought me on dates, and actually put me first (something my ex did not do). We still are currently talking and while I still like him, he doesnt make me feel the way I felt with my ex and its such a big turn off. He's so completely different from my ex and I keep telling myself that that can only be a good thing because I deserve better, but its so hard to like him for him and to stop comparing him to my ex, especially when my ex still tries to contact me every now and then. What do I do?
JR2315 Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 This is gonna sound harsh but i suggest you just stop dating this very moment. You dont seem to be over your ex-bf at all. The only thing youre doing is creating a chain reaction of broken hearts because you yourself cannot give anyone all the love they deserve. Well here are a few questions to consider. How much time did you take to heal from being hurt? Do you still have feelings for your ex? Are you only dating to fill some type of void in your life? Plzzzz plzzz plzzz do not start this cycle of heartbreaks just for your fling's sake. You personally know how it felt to have been hurt so why are you doing it to them?
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