wilsonx Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I am actually more than halfway through been reading all day. I am just looking for some more positive reads to keep me busy. I'm at the relationship inventory chapter now will read it tomorrow. I'm kind of worried though, I cant seem to see much wrong with her, but I see whats wrong with me, this isnt the first time I've said stupid **** causing a relationship to end Stop thinking like this... stop stop stop stop stop stop stop stop I can tell you why you aren't in a relationship right now, you have no self confidence... you have to rebuild this... priority#1 she stripped you of all of it and ran... My ex did the same thing to me, my coworkers and friends saw me f'ed up for 2 solid weeks. You know what, I did things to rebuild my self confidence. This is what I have done... I talk to every person I see, whether a quick hey or how are you doing. I live in a big apartment community and I talk to anyone I see walking by. Always maintain eye contact, always, even with women, always always. You will see that they smile and turn away which shows them you are a confident guy. I met this new girl on my kickball team i signed up for 2 nights after my ex left. She's just like me, very competitive, awesome, we had a lot of fun practicing together tonight. We gave each other high fives, we locked eyes in conversation for upwords of 2 minutes, huge huge confidence boost. There's no possible way I could even consider dating her now but next week we are going to hang out and grab a couple beers after our game and just have fun
wilsonx Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 You know what try looking at a woman if your driving or at a mall and she looks at you for a couple seconds, wink at her and smile... if she turns away and turns back and gives you the biggest cheese smile, it will definitely be a confidence boost. I have not called a single person on my list of friends i have been bothering for the past 3 weeks tonight, its the first night in a long time, i feel really good about getting out, trying something new, having fun and meeting new people
betterdeal Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Okay, tell me an example of what you said, why you said it, and what you wanted to achieve by saying it. It sounds to me like you have problems asserting yourself. This is a communication issue. So give me an example, and let's see if we can work out better ways to assert your feelings.
Author latexyankee Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Your right, inside I don't have any self confidence, that's why I say stupid things and get negative reaction when I'm looking for positive reinforcement.
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