sm1tten Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I think it is not quite the same as wearing a push up or padded bra, in part because a man might be disappointed at smaller than advertised boobs but he may in fact be totally turned off by excess skin. People cheat or become disinterested for a variety of reasons ranging from superficial looks to issues of respect or compatibility and beyond. At the end of of the day one can't really predict reactions or preferences but I think the idea of not dating until you don't NEED a girdle is ridiculous.
toms0321 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 I am a male that wears a long legged high waisted boned and zippered panty girdle everyday. I have come to conclusion that a girdle was at one time a "Woman's Best Kept Secret". It does take a little getting use to but now I wear a girdle even when just relaxing around the house and I have never felt so good. See when I wear my spandex I am not setting out to deceive anyone. I'm setting out to look good and feel good. That may be a problem for some guys, but I haven't experienced that so far, and my priority is still my comfort when it comes to what I choose to wear. My current bf has love handles and a tummy, as well as some man boobage. I think he looks a lot hotter in a shirt that hides some things and emphasizes others even though I know he looks quite different underneath. I didn't feel betrayed or deceived to discover he didn't look quite so good without a shirt on. Should he have worn a shirt that was tight and revealing to ensure that I knew what I was getting into? Sure, if someone is setting out to deliberately deceive in order to hook someone in dishonestly, that would seem wrong. I don't think that's the case here. In my experience there have been absolutely no problems before or after the clothes came off.
toms0321 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Wearing a girdle is not really cheating it is being in touch with yourself and being the best you can be. I have a mild case of scolosis plus a small stomach I went to a corsetier for a fitting she put me in a long legged high waisted boned and zippered panty girdle. I was amazed how great I felt with a dramatic increase in energy and confidence, and much improved posture. I now wear a girdle not just for going out but just relaxing around the house. As some might recall, I've been steadily working on losing weight for the last two years. At my highest weight (with a BMI of 44) I would have qualified for gastric bypass surgery, but I'm very happy I was able to lose it without going that route. At the moment my BMI is 28, with about 15 lbs to go until I'm not considered overweight by doctors. Unfortunately, even when you take the weight loss slowly, 85 lbs can't disappear without leaving evidence -- I have a lot of loose skin. It makes clothes shopping a huge hassle because it's hard to find clothes that fit and look good. Eventually I want to get a tummy tuck but it's not in my budget now. A friend of mine who went through gastric bypass recommended a particular brand of girdle that helped hold in the loose skin as well as reducing her back pain... so I gave it a shot. And I love it -- I can wear jeans that are two sizes smaller than I can without it (because it compresses the bulky skin apron), and it smooths out any bulges or rolls so clothing looks better. And it also has helped my lower back. But I've wondered how a guy would react to learning their new interest's body was given by Spanks (not the brand I have) instead of a Supreme Being. Would they feel deceived or cheated? Or, is it something akin to wearing a bra (boobs look very different without one) or makeup? Also, given that I'm 31 and time does a number on anybody, would men around my age or older reasonably expect their date to have as firm of a body as an 18 year old when the clothes came off? BTW: I know the right person wouldn't give a crap about saggy skin -- they'd love me for who I am. I'm not wearing the thing to attract a man, I'm wearing it because I feel both more comfortable and more self-confident with it. I am curious, though.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 nope, but you freely admit to us that you can't help but sneak, snoop, and plot against any and all men you do find. which makes a blanket character statement about men from you pretty funny. Um, I still don't see your point. I am not describing my character. I could follow it perhaps if you implied that I cheat (which would make me a hypocrite). But because I snoop (when I have a reason to suspect that something is going on) - I can't say that cheaters are bad? Sorry, it just doesn't compute.
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