Would this bother you? Would you find this disrespectful?

[whatdoido1717]

Hey all, question regarding my friends and my Ex. If you have followed my posts at all, I am not talking about my most recent Ex, instead my Ex before her, with whom I was together over 2 years and broke up with in the beginning of October.

 

For all intensive purposes, this has been the most important Ex in my life and the best/strongest/most loving relationship I have had. While we were together she became friends with my close-knit group in my home town as we hung out with them all the time.

 

About a month after my most recent breakup, and roughly 6 or 7 months after our break up she text me in the middle of the night saying "Z?" We have exchanged a couple text message conversations since then, nothing life altering.

 

I recently found out that she is going up this weekend to hang out with my group of friends, which in itself I have no issue with as I know they were all close. What I find a little disrespectful, in particular by "friends" of mine and by her to some extent, is that one of the guys from our circle of friends, somebody I would consider a friend, although not as close with as others, is trying to set my Ex up with another mutual acquaintance. This mutual acquaintance hangs out in our circle fairly often and is very good friends with my buddy who is tryin to hook the two up. Now the two of them are talking constantly and he is part of the reason she is going up this weekend.

 

Do you find this disrespectful at all? How would he feel if he broke up with his current gf, who he is very much in love with, and a couple months down the road I tried to hook her up with my buddy who also runs in the same crowd as us.

 

If that is the amount of respect these guys have for my feelings than F that. There is only one person in that group, my best friend, who I REALLY care about, the rest, I could cut them out of my life (since I have to drive all the way to my home town on the weekends to kick it anyway) fairly quickly if I knew for sure they were tryin to set something like this up.

 

I am certainly not going to go kick it with them if she is dating somebody and gonna be around with him when I go up. And why would I wanna kick it with people who don't take my feelings into consideration. But maybe, they figured it was okay since I moved on and was dating somebody new.

 

Am I wrong here? Overreacting? I feel like this is breaking some kind of "guy code" on how you should respect boundaries concerning the Ex's of your friends.

 

Thoughts?

Edited June 15, 2011 by whatdoido1717

[whatdoido1717]

it's okay, I didn't really want anyone's thoughts anyways, haha...

[ludachris]

ya id say u have the right to be upset in a way, but i mean she is your ex and you have had another gf since then. Do you still even talk to the friend whom is trying to set her up with a mutual acquantance? How do you know he is trying to set them up? Your friend probably has no idea that this is bothering you. He might think you are completly over her since you already had another gf and all. maybe u should let him know and see what he does then. Then you should make your decision on wether or not you still want him to be your friend.

[Kilty]

Well since you found someone else after the breakup with this ex they may think you are over her and have moved on and will be ok with this ?