Confused about me and my ex getting back together. Need advise, please help

[manolo]

Hi, OK here is the story. Me and my ex has been broken up for three months and we are starting to see each other again. During our break up she was seeing another guy. Now that we are seeing each other again, this is really bothering me because they had sex. I know that we were not together at the time and she was free to do what she wanted but, I just can't stop thinking about this. We were only broken up for three months and she slept with someone and I haven't even kissed another girl since.

 

What should I do? Should I forget about it or should I end it.

 

I am seriously thinking about telling her that this isn't a good idea and that we should'nt see eacher anymore.

 

What would you do. Please give me some feedback.

[supermom]

I think you should let it go. What she did when you guys were not together is really not even your business. What if you were with someone and you still wanted to get back together? I bet if she ended it over that you would be very upset.

 

As long as she doesn't do anything while you are officially together, I think you should get over it and be with her, if that is your intentions.

 

Good luck

[only1nacole]

I agree with Supermom. I think you should forget about it. The two of you were not together.

[hbchick]

maybe being with the other guy made her realize how much she wants to be with you

[Cutie314]

If you are ever going to start a relationship over again you MUST forget about the past altogether and start over. I am sure she was with someone before you two got together the first time. If you both really want it bad enough you will take it slow, and not jump into anything right away.

 

That's my 2 cents anyway

[mont13]

Right now it sucks..but you have to think in the big picture if you both love each other should it really be an issue!!? Let it go and be happy that you are getting a second chance! just think if the sex was that good she would still be having it with the guy!!

[Becks84]

Let what happens in the past stay in the past! You cannot move forward if you don't do so. Good luck.

[LuvHurtsme]

Well I can be sympathetic to your situation, it's tough thinking about your girl/boyfriend with another person. But you have to see it for what it was, it was just sex and you guys weren't together. Obviously it meant nothing because she is with you now. My advice is to forget it, move on and make her remember why she came back to you

[manolo]

She came back to me because the other guy played her after he got what he wanted and started seeing someone else behind her back. Not only that but, she lied to me about dating someone during our breakup. The whole time we were broken up she said she was going out to hang out with some friends when she was going out with another guy. She just recently confessed all this to me. I think honesty is the key to a relationship. That's why I am having doubts about getting back together.

 

Maybe it was not meant to be. Only time will tell. I am just gonna be single for a while and think about things because I really cared about this girl alot. We were together for three years and in love. It's hard to put something like this aside. Thats why what she did boggles me. To start dating someone a couple weeks after a three year breakup and sleeping with that person maybe a month after you meet does not make sense to me especially when she tells me that she loves me a week before we breakup.

 

Anyway, thank you all for the advise. I know I should no be mad because we were broken up at the time and she was free to do what she wanted but, I just can't seem to put this past me. Reply back and let me know what you all think.

[Dixiecron]

Hate to crash the "get over it and love her anyways" party, but let me see if I've got this straight:

 

Your ex dumped you after 3 YEARS so she could go bang a player and then found out that the grass was not greener on the other side. What reason did she give you when she left? Wanna bet she met this guy and knew he was interested before she left you? Then she lies to you about it afterwards.

 

So, by my count she is:

 

1. not loyal/not really into you (throws away 3 years to go play with other guys)

2. a liar (you said it, not me)

3. a slut (the non-PC way of saying that you and she don't share the same values regarding sex)

 

She sounds like a real catch to me <dripping sarcasm>

 

I say you have every right to be mad. Maybe she's not the person you thought she was. Maybe you should stay single for a while longer and let your heart catch up to your head. Your instincts are telling you something or else you wouldn't be asking us about it. Why don't you listen to your gut feeling? Here's a little thought exercise: reverse the situation so that you dumped your girlfriend after 3 years to go nail a girl you picked up in a club, and every time you bang her, you tell your ex that you're just hanging out with the boys. Then a few months later you decide you want your girlfriend back. Do you think she would take you back, knowing that you lied about the whole thing?

[j man]

say hell, no if she hooked up with another guy that fast u shouldnt want to be

 

with her cuz she obviously didnt feel to bad when she broke up with u she

 

seemed to move on IN A REAL HURRY it just doesnt seem like u meant alot to her

 

and even if u did thats some bs i wouldnt let that $#!^ fly u gotta man up and call

 

bs.

[tony3000]

What the hell are you her backup guy? So the other guy played her huh? Boo Frickin Hoo.. Good for her. You shouldn't have taken her back. She'll do it again unless you get some balls. Broom her fast!!!!!

[tom_gbr]

notice the difference in opinion between the guys and girls? lol

 

screwed someone else within three months of breaking up and now wants you back? move on man she aint worth it...make her suffer