curiousme Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Okay so I feel really stupid for thinking or even posting this. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now and we love each other very much and talk about our future together getting married and having kids. He worked in a factory for a few years and now finaly got a better full time job being a manager in sales. He can't stop braging about himself now and its driving me crazy!!!!!!! He tells me every single thing he sold and how every single customer likes him and how he is the best at this and that and its everyday he rambles on for hours! Its been going on for 3 months now. I don't know how to tell him its getting annoying without hurting him. I work in sales in a bank and I do not have the need to tell him every visa card i sold and this and that every day. I tell my friends about this issue and they think its annoying as well. A person can only talk about themseleves so much without getting annoying. Mind you we don't live together and get to see each other about 3 times a week because we are so busy. I feel like every phone conversation and every time we have together is spend on him braging about himself.... ahh please help Link to post Share on other sites
FrostFire Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 You need no help. Tell him how you feel and what's been bothering you. If you need help with figuring out what to say then I guess you do need help:laugh:. Just kidding. Really, take some time and tell him, "Hey big guy, when you get a moment we need to talk...there's something on my mind and I want you to hear me out." Then tell him whatever it is that's been bothering you. There's always someone that's going to get hurt which is the whole point of arguments but it's unhealthy to not have arguments in a relationship. It's time you have a talk and maybe he won't react the way you're thinking? Worse thing is you two fight and then make up. It's bound to happen... and is necessary in any long lasting relationship. Just tell him already... Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
GivenUp0083 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Sounds to me like he's seeking approval or acknowledgement from you of his success. I say give it to him. Say you're impressed. Tell him you're proud of him and you're glad that not only is he successful, but you can tell it makes him happy and that you like that. Then, he will get over bragging about it as it will get old for him as well. Just acknowledge him. Give him what he wants. Support him. If he doesn't stop after you give him a dose of this, then you tell him that you're happy for him, but it's getting a little annoying talking about it, but say it in a playful manner. Link to post Share on other sites
FrostFire Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Sounds to me like he's seeking approval or acknowledgement from you of his success. I say give it to him. Say you're impressed. Tell him you're proud of him and you're glad that not only is he successful, but you can tell it makes him happy and that you like that. Then, he will get over bragging about it as it will get old for him as well. Just acknowledge him. Give him what he wants. Support him. If he doesn't stop after you give him a dose of this, then you tell him that you're happy for him, but it's getting a little annoying talking about it, but say it in a playful manner. Or you could take this approach... Either is fine but don't remain silent about it if it's bothering you. Link to post Share on other sites
iJester Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Just tell him you don't want to talk about work. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 You been together two years, seriously tell him STFU. I mean just explain to him it is a annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 You been together two years, seriously tell him STFU. I mean just explain to him it is a annoying. Yes, that will make him feel really good about himself! His self esteem has obviously been affected by his previous job and he's revelling in his new found status. Whenever he mentions it, support him. Tell him you're really proud of him - and mean it - he's just sharing his excitement. Very soon his self-esteem will be able to stand on it's own two feet and he'll quit bragging to make himself feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Yes, that will make him feel really good about himself! His self esteem has obviously been affected by his previous job and he's revelling in his new found status. Whenever he mentions it, support him. Tell him you're really proud of him - and mean it - he's just sharing his excitement. Very soon his self-esteem will be able to stand on it's own two feet and he'll quit bragging to make himself feel good. Seriously, if he is bragging about him self so much that friends even think it is annoying. Yes, she should tell him to quit it. She siad this has been going on for 3 months. I am pretty sure it is to the point where it is insulting to her. If he is so insecure that he has to keep pushing in her face that he is doing good - he should be told to STFU. Why must she sit and deal with his bragging since he is insecure of this past job? I am pretty sure she is pretty happy of him. He isn't a child, he doesn't need constant validation. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Sounds to me like he's seeking approval or acknowledgement from you of his success. I say give it to him. Say you're impressed. Tell him you're proud of him and you're glad that not only is he successful, but you can tell it makes him happy and that you like that. Then, he will get over bragging about it as it will get old for him as well. Just acknowledge him. Give him what he wants. Support him. If he doesn't stop after you give him a dose of this, then you tell him that you're happy for him, but it's getting a little annoying talking about it, but say it in a playful manner. Totally agree. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Seriously, if he is bragging about him self so much that friends even think it is annoying. Yes, she should tell him to quit it. She siad this has been going on for 3 months. I am pretty sure it is to the point where it is insulting to her. If he is so insecure that he has to keep pushing in her face that he is doing good - he should be told to STFU. Why must she sit and deal with his bragging since he is insecure of this past job? I am pretty sure she is pretty happy of him. He isn't a child, he doesn't need constant validation. Well I would never tell someone I loved to STFU. I prefer to be kind to people who matter to me. I'm not sure how his bragging can be insulting to her either. If he is that insecure, he probably needs her support and maybe a bit of therapy, not a 'kick in the teeth' by his girlfriend who, by my definition, should be on his side. She doesn't have to sit and deal with anything, she can bring the subject up 'gently' or maybe even tease him about it if that's easier, but telling him to STFU is the last thing she should do! Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Well I would never tell someone I loved to STFU. I prefer to be kind to people who matter to me. I'm not sure how his bragging can be insulting to her either. If he is that insecure, he probably needs her support and maybe a bit of therapy, not a 'kick in the teeth' by his girlfriend who, by my definition, should be on his side. She doesn't have to sit and deal with anything, she can bring the subject up 'gently' or maybe even tease him about it if that's easier, but telling him to STFU is the last thing she should do! I didn't mean to sound insensitive but I meant STFU in a teasing way. I really didn't mean it in a literal sense. Link to post Share on other sites
EasyHeart Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Yes, that will make him feel really good about himself! His self esteem has obviously been affected by his previous job and he's revelling in his new found status. Whenever he mentions it, support him. Tell him you're really proud of him - and mean it - he's just sharing his excitement. Very soon his self-esteem will be able to stand on it's own two feet and he'll quit bragging to make himself feel good.This. He's excited (and probably nervous) about his new job. It will pass as he develops more confidence. The worst thing you could do right now is try to burst his bubble. Link to post Share on other sites
youngskywalker Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 (edited) Something like that can surely get on a persons nerves. Your situation would drive me insane. You just have to bust his balls on it -at the right time-. If he has any sense at all he'll see it and change. I have a friend who likes to brag and it makes me not even want to talk to him. In fact, we don't even talk at all anymore because of his piety. If you don't deal with it, eventually you'll just snap and dump him... Give him a fair chance and talk to him about it. Edited June 16, 2011 by youngskywalker Link to post Share on other sites
Author curiousme Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 Thank you all for the quick replies! So the the plan is I will compliment him and give him support if thats what maybe hes seeking. I'll wait a little while and if things dont improve that when I say listennnn up! haha! and msg to smileface: I got your joke no worries I know you didnt mean for me to say STFU to my bf. You just meant tell him whats up and him to smarten up a little. Im just happy I have a good bf and i'm not complaining about worse things but this sureee is annoying! We will see how this week goes with my plan in action! Link to post Share on other sites
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