irc333 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 There was this profile of a woman on POF, she had a real long write-up. And in the "first date part" she has, "Our first meeting does not have to be great, it's just to get to know each other to see if something happens." And then she goes, "oh, as a matter of fact, lets not make a FIRST date a coffee shop, that's the most UNromantic place to take a date, what are you guys thinking?!" First, sh,e says it doesn't have to be specacular, but then she whines about guys wanting to take hre for coffee. Man, what a piece of work, eh? lol
Rinnix Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 First dates makes everyone nervous, no need to be romantic. Id have no problems meeting for coffee first, I plan to stay alive.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 There was this profile of a woman on POF, she had a real long write-up. And in the "first date part" she has, "Our first meeting does not have to be great, it's just to get to know each other to see if something happens." And then she goes, "oh, as a matter of fact, lets not make a FIRST date a coffee shop, that's the most UNromantic place to take a date, what are you guys thinking?!" First, sh,e says it doesn't have to be specacular, but then she whines about guys wanting to take hre for coffee. Man, what a piece of work, eh? lol Are there any profiles of women you do like?
fishtaco Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 First, sh,e says it doesn't have to be specacular, but then she whines about guys wanting to take hre for coffee. When actions don't match words, that's a red flag for being a psycho chick.
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Man, what a piece of work, eh? lol Oh, it's not that bad. It just sounds like she wants the first date to be either more substantial than "just coffee" or more imaginative/engaging than "just coffee". Both are easily done. Maybe she's bored of having coffee with guys who can't think up something other than coffee.
Enchanted Girl Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I would be fine with just going out for coffee. Done it before, but I kind of see her viewpoint because all the men who took me out just for coffee on the first date, didn't go on a second one with me, while all the men who took me out to a restaurant, did. It might be a coincidence, but oh well.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Oh, it's not that bad. It just sounds like she wants the first date to be either more substantial than "just coffee" or more imaginative/engaging than "just coffee". Both are easily done. Maybe she's bored of having coffee with guys who can't think up something other than coffee. I think pre-first date stage, she hasn't earned more than a coffee date. She can want something more all the wants, but any smart guy won't give that to her on date 1. I'm just not gonna pony up the cash and time to devout to you before I've even met you and before I know if you have any real interest in me.
oaks Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I think pre-first date stage, she hasn't earned more than a coffee date. She can want something more all the wants, but any smart guy won't give that to her on date 1. I'm just not gonna pony up the cash and time to devout to you before I've even met you and before I know if you have any real interest in me. Fair enough. Date someone else.
GivenUp0083 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Fair enough. Date someone else. Did you read my post? This doesn't make sense. I'm not dating anyone right now at this stage in my life.
PhillyDude Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Why don't people just say CAFE? I mean no one is really meeting up to have coffee. It's usually a smoothie or something else but I have not went on a 1st date at a cafe and the woman was drinking coffee. Cafe/Bar or Cafe/Bookstore.
fishtaco Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 I think pre-first date stage, she hasn't earned more than a coffee date. She can want something more all the wants, but any smart guy won't give that to her on date 1. I'm just not gonna pony up the cash and time to devout to you before I've even met you and before I know if you have any real interest in me. I agree with this. Dating is not about the man doing what the woman wants, it's mutual. If the man hasn't earned anything, then the woman hasn't earned anything either.
Knittress Posted June 16, 2011 Posted June 16, 2011 You seem to make a big deal out of offhand comments people make online. Are you this high maintenance in real life?
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