bubble_pink Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Me and my partner have been toghether 8 months both parents hugley dissagree with our relationship this has put pressure on us both but we have pushed through it Recently my partner got a part time job in a pub working nites she also has a day job. So time spent together has changed which i understand. We spent harldy anytime this month i can count on my hand its been twice and with a few gaps to spare two minuets with each other Latley she has put off time with me and constantly txt people she works with in the new job one person in paticular while spending two minuets with me and i sit there like a third wheel she has bcome snappy at me and more grumpy than usal She now wants a week to herlsef so she can rest even tho we aint seen each other she dont want to split she says she is unhapy and keeps snappin at me and its not right she dosent want to be like that with me. Am i wrong to feel something is up maybe there is someine else or im getting the brush off what do i do? I wana know how to go about this.
sunshine103 Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Bubble, trust you instincts because your gut feeling is usually right. Sounds like she is interested in someone else and thinking about playing the field to see what's out there. The minute they say "i need time off" or anything of that nature, it usually means BREAK UP IS COMING. Keep talking to her and see where her head is at. If she keeps pushing you away, then i might be time to not contact her and leave her alone. Hopefully she will come back crawling.
Kilty Posted June 15, 2011 Posted June 15, 2011 Firstly the best thing to do is prepare yourself for the worse - although that may not be the outcome - but just do it. And secondly - the next best thing to after that is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Do not phone her Do not text her Do not even try to find out what is wrong - its been a month of being treated second best right ? Its clearly her that has the issues not you Do not give her a chance to engineer an argument by contacting her to find out whats up Do nothing - even if it takes a week or 2 of no contact She will be in touch when she is ready - and if not then she wasnt worth it.
Author bubble_pink Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 Thank you for the advice it was much welcomed. An update on the situiation I broke the rule of letting the week space continue I asked my parter to come and see as we needed to talk and I wantd things to be clear. which she was huffing and puffing about as she was run down which when i see her she did look rough and clearly run down. I explaind to her the way i had been feeling lately and the reasons why 1. constantly txt new person at the pub ( nothing to do with sexuality or age its a person! ) 2. we havent spent any time and the handfull of times we have we have been snappy and its not spoke about which makes things worse. 3. since the pub all you have done is go on about this one paticular person and no one else? 4. You get defensive around me and when i am with you, you are more intrested on your phone. 5. My gut instinc is doing a olympic acrobats routine. 6. you have done nothing to settle my mind just told me to wait to the end of the week. To which i asked to see her phone which she handed over and said there is nothing going on and she understands how i feel and why i feel the way i do and was constantly saying sorry. in the phone was this person not alot of txt but from what i could gather was this girl likes my partner she is only 18 but 18 25 34 45 92 there is no diffrence The girl who works with my partner clearly was talking about her self in 3rd person that her gf dont like her and she likes someone else. and my partner told me all about this girls relationship issue gave her advice and questiond it with me. in the txt there were loads of winks and kisses and atempts at trying to visit my partner where she works my partener has not worked in the pub for more than 2 months and a bit so there is no need for this girl to make an effort unless there is a motive behind it. this girl dose have a partner and im pretty sure her gf dont kow shes been trying to flirt with mine. my partners has since deleated her off facebook the route of all scocial evil and her phone and has lay down the law to her my partner has also been honest to the girl about being with me way before all this strated. but in my eyes you dont go through out your whole life with one person and not find your eye looking at someone else and its having the respect for who you are with to turn the other cheeck and not let yourself get into that situation cuase thats how it all starts and things happen. I feel upset although my partner has settled my mind there still a lot to sort out because my instinc was slightly right. lucy xx
TearyEyedPride Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 Your gf sounds nice. I'm glad you two talked it out. One important thing to keep in mind though, was that your instinct was right. Something was wrong. So just try to help her get through whatever it is that she needs to get through, but also make sure that she values and appreciates your efforts.
Author bubble_pink Posted June 17, 2011 Author Posted June 17, 2011 thank you all for your advice i will do my best to share my advice with others on the board. kind regards lucy x
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