Ruby Slippers Posted June 17, 2011 Posted June 17, 2011 I think having no friends at all is a sign of some fundamental problems. Humans are social creatures, and we are not meant to be isolated with no social support. I am a deep-thinking introvert and am restored by time to myself. But I also make sure to keep a healthy circle of friends in my life, because I think it's essential for basic health, not to mention any kind of personal growth or maturation. You can find like-minded people no matter how socially awkward you may feel -- even if it's a meetup group for computer gamers or whatever you're interested in. And two more great side benefits of having friends are that it keeps you socially agile and used to talking to people, and it makes it a lot easier to get into situations where you can meet dating prospects.
MoreWaysThan1 Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 I posit you are unattractive because you believe you are. In my 29 years on this planet I have never seen a physically ugly person that did not have some kind of physical deformity. I have seen plenty of ugly people though-even initially physically attractive ones.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 Quiet guy it has nothing to do with what kind of man you are. Take me for example. I live in a tourist town. Most of the people I work with are either married, young party boys or live at least 15+ min from me. I'm 30 divorced and I don't really fit in either group. Of course we get together for cookouts and such but most of my off time is spent alone....or with women. How? I ride the bike trail 4 to 5 days a week and kayak at least twice a week. I work out at my house and I have no problem going to the beach by myself or one of the many townie bars (on a rare occasion). Even alone you can score well with the ladies. Moral of the story: Take all your self pity time, and turn it into self improvement time. ^^^He's right. I'm a loner by nature but I socialize very well and always have. I do things on my own when I feel like it and then turn around when I wanna hang out with someone. It's all up to me. The key is to be secure with yourself and who you are and not care what anyone thinks of you. If you can get to that feat, then you're well on your way to happiness.
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